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Gwendoline B
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 Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:03 am Post subject: do i replace see my explaination below or do i sit back and enjoy my day !? |
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| the sad thing i found this year is my eldest Son.. firstly to explain he is not even 50 yards away living from us. and it took until 4PM to ring me to wish me a happy Christmas. whats more strange is he burnt all the packaging of the toys and gifts before ringing me.well god works in mysterious ways and he had burnt a gift voucher that was put in a slipper box! so much for being tidy eh.. served him right ..now i have the dilemma weather i should replace his loss. or.....as they didn't visit us and went to her mothers when he distinctly told me he wasn't going there for dinner and then went on to some rich friends who have no kids and have taken then under their wing.( just to explain my Son likes money wouldn't be too short off the mark. and he has a very expensive wife to keep !!so all u folks out there with hand on heart what would you do.. replace or..sit back and enjoy the idea his carelessness and ungratfullnes not to mention the fact he lies about where he is and why and he hasn't brought the baby to see us in..errr 15 weeks but he came and asked for gifts for him and said i would eb buying for 2 next year..why bother when i don't get to see any of them..( on reflection too many issues to mention)paid him back.! |
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ann s
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:11 am Post subject: |
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| hmmmm TMI rambling on.. bitter, gloating, whiney , b*tchy.can't wait for mother's day! |
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uknative
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:14 am Post subject: |
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| It's amazing how Christmas is meant to be a 'family' time, yet each year it causes so much heartache within many families! If I were in the same situation, I certainly wouldn't replace the voucher. You gave the present in good faith and he lost it through his carelessness; Christmas Day was yesterday, move on now - we'll be into a new year next week, and may it be a good one for you! |
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dianamarie2
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:18 am Post subject: |
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| Well, dear, politics aside, he's the one who was careless. I don't think there's any rule that says you have to pay out twice for someone else's carelessness. You did what you were supposed to do. Sit back, enjoy your day, and let him learn to live with the consequences of his actions. Maybe that's the gift he gets this year....as you said, God works in mysterious ways...Happy Holidays, Gwendolineand God bless you and yours. |
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funny bun
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:30 am Post subject: |
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| If money is his god, then let him worship at the temple of materialism. You don't have to worship alongside him. He has chosen his path and you must take consolation from the fact that try as you may, he will find his own way.My main concern is that you should not become bitter about how he lives his life....you gave him life, but it is now his to live in his own way.Sons can be selfish and inconsiderate, but he may see the error of his ways. If he should come back to you in the future as the son you knew and loved, be there with an open heart.To answer, about the voucher...no, you should not feel obliged to replace it. |
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Mother of four
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:36 am Post subject: |
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| He burt your gifts? As in set them on fire?I would not replace a thing! He sounds selfish. However do not shut your heart to him. Just cut off the money. |
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ankheera
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:42 am Post subject: |
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| There is alot more going on between you two that just Christmas. If you don't talk to him about the pain that he is causing you, you will never heal. You did your part. Replacing the gift voucher would be a ridiculous move on your part, but as mothers we don't always make the wisest decisions. If you have ever had a relationship with your son that did not involve his monetary gain, then you have to sit him down and discuss the problems between you. If you have always just been a wallet to him, then you have nothing more than that to look forward to and need to make the choice of continuing or not. It is a painful step, but one that you desperately need to make or you will grow more and more upset by the things that he does. |
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Mynx
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:43 am Post subject: |
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| I'm sorry your son is being so ungrateful. I really don't feel you should feel any responsibility about replacing the gift he destroyed. I understand as a mother that you don't want him to go without this but honestly, if he had paid a little more attention to the gift you gave he wouldn't have burnt it up.I honestly don't know what you can do about not getting to see your grandbaby more often. It is a very tough situation you are in. I often feel bad that my parents in law don't get to see my new son too often but I have 3 other children a house a yard and a husband to look after so I am a busy lady and I figured if they wanted to see him they could make the trip to see him too. Perhaps that is what you may need to do if you want to see your grandchild. Go there and see them. If you think they make an excuse about where they are going to be then turn up unannounced when the car is there. I do try to get my son up to see his grandparents when I can but the effort should be a two way street. Good luck, I hope this year turns out to be a better year for you. |
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