Stupid Christmas gift?
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Marie S
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 Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 2:10 am Post subject: |
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| Like it or lump it! I am sure your other family members are aware of her rude behavior. She lacks grace. You could simply tell her you forgive her and drop the whole issue; and; participate any time you choose to do so.Good for you. You are totally in the " right." |
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Lprod
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 2:30 am Post subject: |
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| That's why I hate that kind of exchanges.... and even though I agree that a price range should be agreed upon (because it wouldn't be fair to get a $10 present if you spent $50 -- but then again, that's a personal decision) I don't think there should be a "minimum" amount and especially taking into account that you're in a particularly difficult situation at the moment being. That should be considered, and more so if it's a FAMILY member.Why would YOU feel bad...???? SHE should be ashamed of her greedy and rude behavior and apologize!!! I'd have told her exactly the same -- if she didn't like the gift, she can always give it back. And if I were you, I'd definitely refuse to pull names with her again. What an ungrateful, inconsiderate person..... don't even think about it anymore, just think that it was HER who caused this tension in the family, not you. Hope you had a nice Xmas for the rest...... |
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Diamond
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 3:11 am Post subject: |
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| next year do not join inthey are wrong to insist you spend more than you can afford,it takes the niceness away |
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Vicki R
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 3:55 am Post subject: |
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| I'm so proud of you. Unlike so many others who get caught up in the festivities of Christmas and end up in unresolvable debt in the new year, you chose to give gifts that were affordable for your family's financial situation. She was the one in the wrong. A gift given with love does not carry a monetary value except to an inappreciative recipient. I guess you're feeling bad because you had some harsh words to say to her, but I don't blame you one little bit. Families! |
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dksal
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:39 am Post subject: |
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| This all depends on the original agreement of exchanging names....... was it agreed upon that the gift would be the $50.00 price range? If it was, and you knew you couldn't afford it, you shouldn't have participated in the drawing of names this year.....Sorry, but she's right. I don't think she had to be so obnoxious about it, though. |
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thing55000
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:46 am Post subject: |
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The person organising the draw should have clearly explained the amount of money involved so the participants could decide for themselves whether they wanted to take part.If this lady went into the draw spent $50 thinking she would get $50 back in return, she does have a right to feel upset, although NOT with you!It may seem mean on her part to feel this way, but she may be on a budget, too.However, she should definitely not have discussed this with anyone except the person who organised the draw. To talk about it with your family was very unfair.Speak to the person who organised it and let them know you were unhappy how things turned out. Let them know you will only participate in future if the dollar amount is clearly spelled out in the beginning.Cheers  |
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rohit
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 6:51 am Post subject: |
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| I think you have done it well.Keeping your budget in mind rather than trying to satisfy others.The love and affection with which you gave the gift is important and the cost doesn't matters.The person I think must know this.If you are close enough you can sit and talk to her and enlighten her about your relationship with her and after all love and affection comes first not money. |
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tnbadbunny
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 8:45 am Post subject: |
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| Well its a double edge sword. If there was an agreement that the gift should be 50.00 or more, you should have declined to participate. But if there was not a set limit, she was being rude. Xmas can be hard on some when they just don't have it to spend. Families should understand that. Next year there needs to be more communication on this, so feelings do not get hurt. |
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Terri
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 10:38 am Post subject: |
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| You were just fine.If no amount was specified prior to the secret santa name pulling, then she's a greedy old bitty that needs to deal with it or give her present back to you. |
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JenV
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| Posted: Wed Dec 26, 2007 3:18 pm Post subject: |
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| She was absolutely rude in her reaction, and although you were a bit rude in response, in some circumstances, it's understandable as we find ourselves caught offguard by the boorish behavior of others. In the future, you should take care to be aware of what is expected in a gift exchange (most times, in these types of situations, there is a range that's expected to be spent), and politely bow out of such exchanges if you're not financially able to participate in the exchange. I'm sorry that you had to have such a dreadful holiday experience as this one. |
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JMonkey
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| Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2007 1:25 am Post subject: |
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| I don't know if it matters to you now but here is my opinion.First, the person you gave gift card to was very immature and rude for sure. She should have not acted the way she did and should have not said anything to anybody. But here is other thing, I would never give gift card to anybody if it's a gift for secret Santa. (unless the person is in need of gift card from specific store) I think it's not fun and not thoughtful. People do secret Santa because you don't have to buy presents to everybody so you can concentrate on one person. Gift card seems to me like you didn't want to spend time for the person. (I also don't like to give them because, yes, the amount is usually on the card. Tacky) You could've made something as a gift if you are on the budget. I would rather have some hand made scarf than gift card. That's my preference, you know not everybody appreciates things like that. (especially if you are brand whore.) I think you should have been creative for the present. I know she understands your situation. I hope you guys made up and are talking. Wishing you the best. |
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