Please help me out with this. My mother is driving me nuts!?
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Donna W
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 Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:40 pm Post subject: |
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| I would explain to your Mom that you are responsible for your actions only. You don't need her tirade about what someone else does. Does she need to vent? OK, I understand that.Let her vent once, and be done with it. After that she needs to address whatever parties that are giving her grief. |
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"*Crazy For You*&quo
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:40 pm Post subject: |
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| move away - dont be her whipping post! And theres absolutely no need to feel guilty, youre a adult, i bet you will find she will give yuou a bit more respect when you do move away! |
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doktrgroove
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:40 pm Post subject: |
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| Call her less. |
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conim2002
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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| Do what I do. I had to start talking to my mother like one adult to another.I would say "Mom, I don't appreciate you talking to me like this", If you want to have an adult conversation, there is nothing more that I would like to do then to talk to you, but if you are going to criticize me, and be upset all the time, then I find it very hard to pick up the phone and call you".Pretend she is a friend and not your mother. I bet you wouldn't put up with all that garbage from a friend.I understand where you are coming from, because I put up with this type of abuse from my mother for years.She may pout a bit at first, but I guarantee you, she will get the message.PS The thing with your brother, there was no reason for you to mention it to your Mom. It was not her business. I am afraid I wouuld have told my mother just that. In a nice way of course. |
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Nadine
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:41 pm Post subject: |
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| Unfortunately your mother is always going to see you as her little girl. Mom's think we are maturing, but they have a hard time understanding that we can do it on our own. They have a hard time letting go and still feel the need to guide us or in this case control. Sometimes you have to let her be mom. Don't say anything that will upset her. Little by little her attitude will begin to change towards you. Try and distance your self for a while, see if she misses you or wonders what you been up to. Make sure you call her once in a while to see how she is doing. As for this incident, just let it go. She might have been upset at something else and took it out on you.GOOD LUCK |
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miss fancy
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:42 pm Post subject: |
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| I think your mom is somewhat crying out for help....Maybe mama needs alittle attention from the family. you all should get together and take mom out for lunch or something, use this time to just talk and share. Chances are this will make her feel loved. And to really put the icing on the cake Tell her how much you appreciate her for just being mom. Good luck. |
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ricardo
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:43 pm Post subject: |
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| Sounds like mom is wanting to keep control over you and expects you to tell you everything---not a good separation of powers--she is also jealous of your life style at the present time and because you haven't been out of the house very long still considers you a child without any direction--wants you to stay attached to her strings--anyway how does she know what your brother is sending you? Talk to your brother tell him not to let her know when he does something special for you. don't get it--he obviously knows how to get your mother in an uproar. Tell him you rather not get anything from him because the results are worse than the gift. good luck |
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Natasha C
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:44 pm Post subject: |
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| This is pretty normal. I moved away from my mom and now we get along great. I talk to her almost every day but when I go visit, she drives me nuts. Moms are pro at the guilt trip and having fits over small things. You can either, tell her how you feel and maybe she will lay off a bit. Or move away and see her once a year. The only thing about moving away is, when you go visit, she will still drive you crazy and you will feel guilty when you end the trip early because you need a psychologist. |
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beauty
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:44 pm Post subject: |
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| BCZ of sme problms she acts so . what r u doind studying or in job ?just try 2 support her or search 4 job at sme distant place. |
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readyhornot
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:45 pm Post subject: |
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| Daisy, I really feel sorry for you. And I know exactly how you feel because my mother is but the same as yours... I'm not even going to relate what I've been through with her, but this is what I did:1) I visit a psychologist and he asked me: "Why are you in your mom's emotional rollercoaster? Get out of it!" That helped me a lot because it made me realize that I am CHOOSING to feel whatever she feels, and that doesn't need to be the case. I am in control of my feelings. Of course, a lot easier said than done; but bear in mind my mom has four mental diagnosis, among them Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Bipolarity.2) I decided to treat her as a human being, not my mom. Painful? Oh yes! But, as a mother of three myself, I soon realized that a mom doesn't behave the way she does. So I fired her. She can come over anytime she want to (and she does) but I spend time with her according to my schedule, not hers or her impulses.3) I practice the most aggressive assertiveness. Whenever se comes over to change my deco, even if she is right, I politely let her know that I rather have it my way, even if I have to kindly repeat it five times.Hope this helps. Kindness, Tolerance and Patience.Mara |
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K.J.
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject: |
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| I wish i could help more my best friend is 14 and her dad past away last summer and her mom is having a really hard time coping with it and I thought she was exagerating but if u spend any time with her u realize something can't be right she just gets to freaked out over the littlest things and chrissy is always so upset over it and its really hard to comfort her but I try i just wish her mom didn't have to take it out on her daughter sorry i wish i could be of more help. |
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Niwat L
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| Posted: Sat Jan 05, 2008 2:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Come live with me. |
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