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*Soon 2b Mrs. Narkum*
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 Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 5:59 pm Post subject: wedding shower question plz answer? |
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| we're having a jack n jill money shower? is this ok? i wanted to have a shower with our friends and family (guys n girls both) and have more like a party shower then a low boring regular girls shower. more like pizza.. beer kinda thing. how do i do this without a gift registry at a store? maybe having a money tree or something this way we get money instead of an actual gift.. i know this might sound rude but.. whats the difference between a $20 gift and $20 cash.. right?? any suggestions n advice would help thanks.does anyone have any ideas on what to do at our jack n jill party? helppp |
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L♥G
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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| you shouldnt expect gifts, let alone cash. Its kinda tacky and rude to seem like your wanting cash.People will give you gifts/cash out of the kindness of their hearts weather you ask for gifts(like on a registry) or cash or not. Dont expect them. Dont ask at all for gifts or money and you'll be surprised at what you get... in this case though you are more likely to get money and gift cards if you dont have a registry. good luck |
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stephchap81
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, some people will get the hint when there is no registry, however, some people refuse to give money and will give a gift, no matter what you do. On the invite, do not put anything pertaining to gifts of any sort. Then, tell your parents and close friends when they ask, and tell them to spread the word. Some people think that getting a gift shows they took time and effort and actually care, however, if it's a gift you don't want, well, what good does that do? |
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nataliexoxo
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| generally if you aren't registered ppl either bring cash, gift cards or gifts. have your moms and bridal party spread the word that ppl are encouraged to bring things for your wedding purse and that should get the point across without seeming money hungryor have it put politely on the invitations to the shower that the new couple would be very appreciative if you would contribute to their money tree or bridal purse, or wedding fund... |
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jaffacake
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| What do you hope to do with the cash? If you have something particular in mind you're saving for, ask people to club together perhaps, or if it's bigger like a deposit for a house, then set up an anonymous 'gift well' where people drop in their gift of cash (just a decorated box or similar) but also a card with their name and wishes on it, so it still feels personal, and you're not lining up an amount of money by the giver. |
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Kathleen - Soon2BMrsGupta
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| Why dont you ask for no gifts at all.I mean asking for money is just rude, no offense. I honestly wouldnt have the balls to do that. |
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LA SANDUNGUERA
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| my friends asked for cash instead of gifts for their wedding...in the invitations it simply said:"since we have the necesary in our future home.... your cash contributions for our honeymoon would be really appreciated" thank youand guess what......it worked!!just have like you said a jak n' jil money tree visible or a visible box with a sign on it...i think money will be better spent that way |
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alysiallen
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:08 pm Post subject: |
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| Here is the deal... Anything you want to do is cool. It's your wedding/shower. Just be gracious about it. Have your maid of honor and best man send out invitations with a note regarding gifts. EX. A money tree will be given instead of gifts. |
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Ashley s
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:08 pm Post subject: |
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| I would not call it a money shower they are called green back showers...Word-of-mouth is always the best way when discussing cash gifts. Keep in mind, however, that some guests may be offended by being asked to provide a cash gift regardless of how you do it.. You could ask, verbally, for guests to contribute to a "money tree" that would be given to the bride and have it there as a centerpiece at the shower. Guests who were not informed of the cash gift may consider adding to the tree as it is there. I do not recommend a "greenback" shower as most people find this offensive and you may have guests not attend at all simply because of it. Best wishes and best of luck with your planning! |
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minispice79
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:10 pm Post subject: |
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| When we were getting married we asked for money instead of gifts! We knew that we'd end up with a load of unwanted stuff, besides, we already had everything we needed for our house. When we sent out the invitations, we put a little card inside saying "As we do not have a gift list, a small monetary contribution towards our honeymoon would be greatly appreciated". Nobody complained about it or thought it rude. We got enough money to pay for our honeymoon to Spain and also to get a new plasmascreen TV! Plus, we didn't end up with 5 toasters and 7 sets of bedlinen!!! |
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Barbiq
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:10 pm Post subject: |
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| A shower is all about the gifts and the thoughts that people put into getting them for you. It is rude to ask for money ... or even gifts for that matter. Just about any store you can go to has a wedding gift registry ... from WalMart to JC Penny's. You could even put gift cards on the registry. IF you want to have a party...have a party. If you want to have a wedding shower, then have a wedding shower. |
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rxing
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 6:49 pm Post subject: |
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| just tacky, Money Shower! ARE YOU KIDDING? When will you brides learn. Can you show the adult side of yourselves.It is RUDE TO ASK FOR MONEY!!!!!!!!!!!!!YOU GET WHAT YOU GET AND YOU DONT GET UPSET!!! |
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beckaboo5
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 11:42 am Post subject: |
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| its ur wedding shower and u can do what ever makes u happy and dont worry about what any one thinks... this is what the two of uses want so be happy. congrats |
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