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kita
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 Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 7:04 pm Post subject: End a 30 year friendship or suck it up and go? |
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| My friend and I have been friends since we were 7. Her niece(whom I don't know) is 17 and having a baby. She doesn't know who the father is, steals, is on welfare and so on. I got this invitation for a baby shower for her and I found it to be rude to say the least. They actually printed this- To add alittle glee and help out the Mommy to be please bring aliitle extra from the heart, an unwrapped pack of diapers to give a baby a start. The invitation also says to feel free to bring a guest.(this is not a tupperware party). If I don't go I know my friend will be mad, but to be honest I don't want to give this person anything. To make it worse I pulled up her gift registry and the cheapest thing on it is $40.00. What to do? |
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Birch Tree
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| Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 7:10 pm Post subject: |
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| you could always lie i know it's not the best way out but i dont know you could tell your friend that you really just dont have the time or money or something but either way i dont think you should go |
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Manda B
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| Posted: Wed Feb 06, 2008 7:21 pm Post subject: |
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| The first baby is always very expensive and when you register for gifts for a shower, you usually register for things that you will need but can't afford to get for yourself. Wedding registrys are much the same, so you shouldn't feel like she is trying to get more than her share just because she wants some nice things for her child. The invitation didn't say anything rude, in fact, it is customary to bring gifts to a baby shower, isn't it? You might be feeling a little angry about this because you don't believe that this pregnant teenager deserves to have nice gifts from people who work when she is living on welfare.I know how you feel, but try to think of this as giving a gift to the baby, not the mother. In reality, your gift will be greatly appreciated because this young woman will have a lot to deal with once baby arrives and she has to take care of a new, perfect little life for the rest of her life. She might not know it now, but it will be hard and it will be expensive. Try to think of your gift as a small way to help this baby when her mother can't afford to do so.If you are concerned about the cost, maybe talk to other people who will attend and pool your funds. This will give you an opportunity to spend less of your own money to get the mother something bigger that she'll really need. You could also forget the registry and bring her a basket filled with little necessities, like baby shampoo, diapers, wipes, extra onesies, some small blankets, hats, and baby mittens. Even a little manicure set or a nice baby thermometer.Whatever you decide to do, remember your friend has been your friend for 30 years and if she isn't going to be your friend just because you don't want to attend a baby shower for her niece, that doesn't make her a very good friend at all. |
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