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etainbutterfly
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 Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:16 pm Post subject: I received a gift and don't know if it's a shower gift or a wedding gift... what to do? |
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| My fiance's sister sent us a gift yesterday. We did not open it but we are fairly sure it's expensive heavy crystal gift we registered for. I invited her to my shower a month ago but it was a courtesy invitation as she lives out of state. The wedding invitation most likely just arrived there this week as well... so I'm not sure if this is a shower gift or wedding gift. I'm not sure if I should open it or leave it till after the wedding. Do I thank her when I send out shower thank yous or with wedding ones?What do you think?AND when we receive wedding gifts do we open them before the wedding or afterwards? |
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fizzy stuff
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Its a good idea to open wedding gifts right away, so you can send out the thank-card soon. Youll also want to keep track of your registry. Open it, and send a thank-you. I suspect its a shower gift. Just in case, dont mention "wedding" or "shower" in the thank-you. |
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Musicfish
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:23 pm Post subject: |
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| You can open gifts that are sent to the house before OR after the wedding. Don't worry about whether your friend's gift is a shower or wedding present - just write her a note, thanking her for the lovely gift and how much you appreciate her thinking of you. Either way, it's OK if you wait until after the wedding to write it. |
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Kerry
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Thank them nonetheless. Just do not mention the words shower gift or wedding gift in your thank you note. |
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DaIllestBee
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Open it when u want its your day! |
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Steph
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject: |
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| After the wedding like right when you get back from honey moon send out thank yous.. you dont have to specify wedding or shower gift just say thank you |
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vanessa
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject: |
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| Even if it is a wedding gift, presents should be opened as soon as they arrivve to make sure they are not damaged or broken. Even if received before your wedding, you should immediately send thank you notes for wedding gifts. It really doesn't matter if it was a shower gift or a wedding gift... Just open it and write her a nice thank you note for the the beautiful *whatever* that you would display *wherever* and fondly think of her. |
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Trixie
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:27 pm Post subject: |
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| wedding gifts, whether received as a shower gift or as a wedding gift is still a gift associated with your wedding. You should open them as soon as received in order to assure they arrived ok (nothing broken) and record who gave it. Then you should send out a thank you asap. Ettiquette says you have 6 weeks, but if you have time go ahead and write your thank you and send it out. You do not have to send out shower thank you's and other thank you's seperately or in bulk. Regardless of whether the gift was intended for the shower or the wedding just say thank you and tell her how much it is appreciated. You dont have to know which it was intended for to thank them. |
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kazacan44
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Usually shower gifts are given at the shower and are smaller gifts but as you just sent out the weding invites, and as this is family, it could be a shower gift. Doesn't matter. Just write a nice note to her thanking her for the gift. You should open gifts as you recive them so that you can write them down and send thank you notes immediately. If you don't, cards can get misplaced and you can also end up with a huge job after the wedding. You or your parents should have a room or table set aside for wedding gifts to be displayed as they are opened. Open the gift today and get that note off in the mail tomorrow! |
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Invisigoth
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:50 pm Post subject: |
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| It is probably a wedding gift. It is not common for people to send shower gifts when they did not attend the shower. Also most people won't send expensive gifts as shower gifts.It's up to you when you open the gifts but I'd wait until after the wedding...just in case...(I'm a little bit superstitious)edit: I didn't think about the possibility that it might get broken in shipping. Changed my mind. I agree with the ones who said to open it and then send the thank you right away. |
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Kit
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| Posted: Fri Feb 08, 2008 12:55 pm Post subject: |
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| I would open it, there may be a card on the inside that will explain everything. |
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valschmal
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 9:05 pm Post subject: |
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| It is just a gift, plain and simple. There are certain rules on opening and thanking for gifts, regardless of what you call them.1. Open a gift when you receive it, if it's at a shower, or comes to the house, b/c you only have two weeks to send a thank you note for these.2. Gifts that are brought to the wedding are opened at a later date, in private, and you have one month to send a thank you note for those. |
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