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Dr. Knowe Nuthing
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:44 pm Post subject: Serious family Issue : I don't know what to do about this !!! Do you have any advice ?

I have 3 kids...2 boy and a girl. First ( oldest ) boy is an angel, he is smart, passionate, beautiful in everyway. He does great in school, has a bunch of friends and is just the ideal kid. My daughter ( middle ) is a wonderful little girl, she likes to be read to, she's polite, she has a great sense of humor and she is the greatest gift anyone could have...NOW, the youngest little boy...he is a handful ! Cries and whimpers all the time. He pushes his oldest brother and sister. He can take a nap for 20 minutes and stay up day and night. His mother and I are wore out ( mentally and physically ). He is into everything. I feel as if I'm becoming a bad father b/c I invest so much time into making him feel comfortable.I literally feel like I'm going crazy. I don't know what to do with him. I put him to bed, he get's back up repetitiously. He won't listen to anything, he just fake cries and whimpers. Any advice would be great ! I feel like taking a year long vacation !! What do I do ?Boy 7Girl 5Boy 2

joe_fleeman
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:51 pm Post subject:

Quit trying to "make him feel comfortable" and start disciplining him for his bad behavior.It is obvious he is NOT natured like your other 2 kids and will need a different form of parenting than what the other 2 received.

missnasa2001
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:51 pm Post subject:

How old are your children? I have a 12 year old and 10 year old twins. Each one with complete different personalities and there is always one that you have to give extra special attention to. It would help knowing the age. Sounds like he's a little guy.It's gonna be ok mom and dad! You had two children sounds like were a piece of cake. And you can't expect them all to be the same. They just aren't. You do need to stop putting him in the spot light and start taking some new approaches to your discipline. I don't know a two year old that will sit quiet in his room when he's supposed to be "in trouble." Unless he's petrafied to move. If he hits, you need to find a consistant place for him to go. If you must sit there with him for a few minutes in a corner while holding his hands then do so without an argument from you. Let him know each time that hitting is not acceptable. Make him apologize for it. Keep doing it as often as need be and the more consistant you are the faster he will learn. I promise it will work and you will feel so much better. But find one spot in your home that he will go to and you may have to sit there with him unti he learns.

suzianne411
Yahoo User

Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 9:54 pm Post subject:

Take this child to a doctor for evaluation. He may be in pain and unable to say so. A chronic earache could cause his behavior problem, or a metabolic imbalance or even a food allergy. I hope you find out what the problem is and find a cure. It sounds like he is suffering, too.

Poor Pearl
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:05 pm Post subject:

I also have three children and a grandson who is two and a half. All were different to raise. I would certainly make sure that your two year old is healthy in every way. Does he talk? If not it could be that he can not communicate what is wrong. Don't be angry or physical with him but be firm and consistent. Check with the pediatrician, he could have a hearing problem, a stomach problem or an eye problem. Don't be afraid to ask for parenting help. Are you and his mother on the same path in parenting him?

weeping_spirit
Yahoo User

Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:07 pm Post subject:

try getting some couseling for you and your child . Then relax and know you arent a bad parent your just stressed to the limit. And talk to your family doctor about how he actas he maybe able to help you and stuff

jazzme1_03
Yahoo User

Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:15 pm Post subject:

If you have tried most things, I think its time to take him to a pediatrician and have his behaviour evaluated properly.There could be some underlying problem that hasnt been diagnosed. You owe it to yourself, and the rest of the family to get properly checked out soon.

kiwi
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:21 pm Post subject:

He's two. That's a part of being two. He will get over it.

MeShell
Yahoo User

Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:27 pm Post subject:

Sounds like hes add. See a doctor. You dont always need meds.all kids are different. when i noticed it with my son the dr gave awsome sound advise.

Alexa B.
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:42 pm Post subject:

well 1st if i was u i would appreciate this time now because they arnt even into their teen years but the youngest one is only 2(terrible 2's) so just be patient and be a little more stern with him because yes he is only 2 but he can tell the difference between good and bad behavior and your not a bad father at all dont worry yourselfo and if he continues this little fake tear thing just igonore him then he will see he should stop acting like this because he isnt getting attention so he will stop and behave hiself

Laughing at you laughing
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:49 pm Post subject:

Did you really expect too have all perfect Angels? There isn't anything wrong with him or the way you feel. I think since you had two easy children you seem to think that all children are suppose to be like that. Besides he is only two! Haven;t you heard of terrible twos? Every kid is different. Try not to get too frustrated with him. Set rules and be patient with him. Talk to other parents who might have has a child with a personality like you two year old son, maybe they have some tips. Try maybe once a night to hire a baby sitter or have a relative watch the kids so you can get away for a little bit. A break might do you some good. Maybe one day a week would be good for you and your wife. Please don't think anything is wrong with him just because you are use to children being Angels. You sound like you need a break so take one. Getting stressed out isn't going to help the situation. Good Luck.

cakelyn
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Posted: Sun Feb 03, 2008 10:56 pm Post subject:

I would take your child to a doctor. He might have add or adhd.

Gloria M
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:10 am Post subject:

I have 3 kids also and I'm back worst cause my oldest one is the handful and he is 5yrs old. any ways i have a 2yrs old girl and she is the last one to go to sleep and the first one to wake up at 7am in the morning. but there is nothing wrong with it they are looking for attention and they have alot of energy at that age. take him more out and let him waste some of the energy he have and before going to sleep take him a nice warm bath. maybe that would work . about the adhd hyperness could also be but don't always believe it cause i thought my son need it but he did it. just take it easy and try to laugh about some thing he those it will make u feel better and not crazy OK

mountaingrl101
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Posted: Mon Feb 04, 2008 7:16 pm Post subject:

You just spoil him and plus he's in his terrible twos he will grow out of it...I know its alot of stress but be patient with him...

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