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Bex
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 Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:34 am Post subject: Give back a gift? What should I do? |
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| Last year one my friends gave my husband and me a new laptop as a housewarming gift. Now she has sent us an email saying she is having money problems and wants the laptop back. Now we're in an awkward situation because we sold our old one and we use this new one on a daily basis. I think it's kind of rude for her to ask for it back but I don't want to fight about it and I don't want to strain our friendship by telling her we won't give it back. To make matters worse, she lives on the other side of the country so IF we gave it back we'd have to pay to ship it insured, etc. What's a girl to do???? |
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zellparis
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:38 am Post subject: |
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| tell her you sold it because you were having money problems of your own |
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melouofs
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:41 am Post subject: |
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| Wow, she's pretty bold. I would tell her I was sorry about her troubles, but I doubt I'd give it back. |
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verrico98
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:45 am Post subject: |
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| Tell her the truth. It puts you in an awkward situation, you sold your old laptop and this one is cannot be replaced. Offer her a loan instead if you can. If she doesn't accept it that there is nothing you can do. To ask for a gift back is beyond decent. |
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twincrier
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:46 am Post subject: |
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| Tell her you are sorry for her hardship and (if you actually want to preserve the friendship) offer to help her out by sending her (or loaning) some money until she gets back on her feet. |
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Sassy
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:46 am Post subject: |
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| That is rude and no don't send it back. It was a gift and you use it.Tell her you can't right now and sorry for her money problems but money is tight for you too. How good a friend is she? Would she help you out if you needed money? Would you consider loaning her cash? |
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Goddess of Grammar
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:47 am Post subject: |
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| She is just wacked. A laptop is a ridiculous housewarming gift to begin with and to ask for it back the next year is tacky beyond belief.If you can afford to, you could offer her the money you got from selling your old laptop, I guess. |
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Peachy Keen, Jelly Bean
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:48 am Post subject: |
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| I'm sorry, I know this girl is your friend, but her asking for the laptop back was extremely rude. She should be trying to work through her money problems instead of asking for handouts. Simply explain the situation to her. Tell her you already have the laptop set up for your (and your hubby's) use and you've gotten rid of your old one. If she protests, remind her that it was her gift to you and you may now do with it as you please. |
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keirah
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:54 am Post subject: |
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| A) who gives a laptop as a housewarming present whats wrong with a plant eh?!B) ignore her it isnt your problem she has money troubles |
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girlie
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 8:55 am Post subject: |
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| Wow, she's pretty bold to ask for it back!Personally, i wouldn't give it back to her - yes, it was a very generous gift, but it was just that...a gift.Explain to her that you've already sold your old computer and you rely upon this one to do everyday things. If you don't want to strain the relationship, and you think you can afford it, perhaps offer her a lone instead? Obviously not as much as a laptop would cost, but as much as you can afford. A true friend would really appreciate that gesture, and things would go down much better, i think.Good luck!! |
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sweets
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 9:05 am Post subject: |
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| ouch!!awkward situation!look on the plus side she lives across the country so u can make up a story and she won't know the truth!4 a example-tell he u sold the laptop!that way she can't demand it back and u can keep ur friendship!but just a tip to u-b a good person and a good friend help her out here!loan her some money!she gave u a very generous present now here's ur chance 2 help her... |
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JenV
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 9:08 am Post subject: |
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| It was a gift, and not only that, but a very personal gift. If she takes this computer back for resale, it is possible for others to get to private information regarding your family. Explain to her the hardship it would cause to give up the computer you are using, and also explain that you are afraid that your private information would get into the wrong hands if the computer were re-sold. If you are in a position to be able to, offer a loan or to "pay" for the lap-top if you feel that you really need to preserve the friendship. In the future, politely decline any large gifts from this person, as it seems that they can't be trusted as gifts rather than loans. |
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berry
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| It's very rude of her. What's given does not belong to her anymore..........it makes her an Indian giver. If she want's help she should ask for it and not make such a demand. Tell her you can't give it back to her because you need it and have sold your old one. If you can, give her $50 to help out because you are her friend. She needs to seek further help elsewhere/from other friends if she has to. Don't allow her to pressure you to help beyond what you can afford. |
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menfinbof
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 1:43 pm Post subject: |
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| ok shes either being rude, or she really really is in trouble.id be honest with her and tell her what i did with the laptop and try to help her with her pbs. |
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