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ahelaumakani
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 Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 2:50 pm Post subject: What is the "Miss Manners" article trying to say? |
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| I came across this Miss Manners article and I have no idea what the question is asking! I've never heard of this "custom", so I didn't understand what exactly the reader was talking about when she said she won and kept gifts. I'm curious because I'm going to be planning a bridal shower in the near future. "Dear Miss Manners: I had won and kept several gifts at showers, and it was not until I attended a baby shower, and all the gifts were for babies, did I realize that they were meant to be given to the guest of honor! I don’t know when this custom began, but it is for the birds! Gentle Reader: It is also for a generation that grew up being told that being the birthday child trumped all duties and consideration of one’s guests." |
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Wanda
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 2:56 pm Post subject: |
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| At bridal and baby showers there are often little games that are played by everyone at the shower. The person who is throwing the shower buys small gifts to give the winner. These items are usually associated with a new bride or new mom (rattles, potato peeler, etc) Those items are meant to be donated back to bride or the mother to be. Not sure why the custom got started - but that's the way it has always been when I've gone to showers. |
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Dana
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 2:56 pm Post subject: |
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| I think she's trying to say that these people don't have manners, just like the birthday child who does nothing and is inconsiderate of it's guest. While it is nice to give gifts back to the mom to be, it's also nice for her guest to have a little fun and get a little thank you for showing up. |
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Janie
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 2:58 pm Post subject: |
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| The custom the woman is asking about is about is not one that is commonly used... it's a selfish one, that Miss Manners is condemming.In the questioner's case, the prizes she won were expected to be given to the baby and not kept for herself. Miss Manners is saying that is selfish and if there are prizes, they should be for the guests, and that the guests should be treated well.So, the important lesson is to remember that though the baby shower's guest of honor is important, it is also important to make sure all the other guests are having a good time and are treated well. |
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ga.peach67
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 2:59 pm Post subject: |
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| I have never heard of this tradition either and I've been to many showers. Any person who won a gift, kept it. What's the point of having shower games if the gifts all went to the new-mom-to-be? |
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P.S.
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 3:22 pm Post subject: |
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| they apparently played little games at the party and the winner of these games won a gift. This writer kept the gifts without knowing that the "custom" was to give these gifts to the person who the party is for.I never heard of this custom, but I understood the question.The answer from Miss Manners is, as usual, worthless. |
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Susie D
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 3:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Back when I was younger I had heard of this tacky little custom to make game "prizes" gifts that would be given back to the guest of honor ~ but that has long since fallen out of fashion because it is extremely tacky, and tasteless.My suggestion is to make the "prizes" something that your guests will want to keep should they win, but if they feel the need to offer them back to the bride-to-be then so be it. The BTB could of course exercise grace and 'insist' her guest keep their prize as a momento of attending the shower. |
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Parrot Eyes
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 4:12 pm Post subject: |
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| Apparently there is a baby shower where some attendees won prizes for the games they played, but at the end of the party the hostess made them turn all the gifts over to the pregnant lady.Wow, that's tacky. |
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samdugan
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| Posted: Thu Feb 07, 2008 4:39 pm Post subject: |
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| Miss Manners is useless, and all the comments are grossly outdated. |
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