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shugal
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 Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:10 pm Post subject: my confidence is knocked so bad...will i now be alone forever? |
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| 5yrs ago i met my x at first he was charming, he would buy me everything, showered me in beautiful gifts and with me being a single mum of 2boys, i wasnt used to being this spoilt. i thought this is finally it, i had found himand at long last was settled. things were going well, we fell in love. over a year into the relationship i discovered i was pregnant, he was over the moon. as my pregnancy went on he started to dissapear to the pub for10hrs at a time, he didnt even tell me he was going. he would say he was popping to the shop, he became voilent,and would lock me in thebedroom when i was very heavily pregnant and beat me. he held knives to me and wouldnt let me out. i was punched in the tummy had black eyes ect... never laid a finger on my boys but started to make it clear that he didnt like them, and didnt want them around. when the baby was born he got worse. eventually i packed our things and left. he knocked my confidence that bad. im left askin myself will i be alone forever |
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amo a erve
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:17 pm Post subject: |
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| no but my advice is the next time you get in a relationship is take it slower and when he buys you gifts dont only pay attention to that. you need to watch how he acts around all other things. make sure he isnt an alcoholic or addict, if he is then make sure he is in AA/NA (the people there are very good but make sure he has been clean for a years amount...if you dont believe him ask to see his key tags) they give key tags out for clean time. |
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Whenever you want
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: |
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| no you need to give yourself a break and do somethings that you like, tie up loose ends first and then move on |
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chizzlewizzle004
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:33 pm Post subject: |
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| no but ur kids come 1st |
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I Love Jesus
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 12:34 pm Post subject: |
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| My heart goes out to you, and your boys and the baby.I pray that you are okay now, and especially the baby, he fail to realize that there are laws against assault and abuse, and especially on an unborn child.you were in a very disastrous and dangerous situation, and i suggest you be very careful, and selective on who you let into your life, especially for the sake of your children, because certain things in life, they should never have ever or have to experience as it can take a toll on them. don't let gifts influence you and make you think that the person is going to be different, in certain cases that is not the answer.like the other person said, take it slow the next time.Also finfd a Bible believing church, and become in fellowship with the women there, and they can also help advise you.Also seek counseling.No, you are not alone, Jesus is with you, and he always will be. |
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riseball
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 1:57 pm Post subject: |
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| You might get some counseling to get your self- esteem back, all men are not that mean.Get your self confidence back, get out of your depression & move on,get tough,this is lesson #1 in your life,learn by it & don't be careless, god bless you & the children, pray & attend church it does wonders |
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Jill
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| Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 3:23 pm Post subject: |
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| Shugal, You need to get your priorities in order. Forget about men & put your children first in your life. One day you will be glad that you did. They may be there for you, when you are oldI can remember before my daughter married. She was a new stewardess for United Air Lines. She wanted a fellow so bad.She gave up, got her a hobby, did volunteer work when she could. Then she wrote to me saying that, "once she got busy with other things, the guys began to come out of everywhere.She swept a wonderful guy off his feet, married and has lived happily ever after.~~~ Why not dust your self off & act as if your life doesn't depend on a man. It is such a great feeling. If someone comes along that deserves you, check him out good & hold out for marriage. A real man wants a lady for a wife, not an easy lay. Your profile says first off that you like to party. You have 3 children. Take them & yourself to Sunday School & Church & make it a habit. There are other people there with the need for Jesus in their lives also. No one can make you want to better your life, thats your choice. I stand ready to help with any questions you might have. God Bless You ~~~~~~~ |
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rockstarwife
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| Posted: Sun Feb 10, 2008 6:07 pm Post subject: |
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| You KNOW what I'll say to this! You KNOW the answer, my dear. |
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poiser
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| Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 3:58 pm Post subject: |
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| I came from an abusive relationship myself, but I have no children. You deserve a better life. Dont be afraid to leave him. Be afraid that one day you might not wake up again from his abuse and never see your kids again!! You can make your life happen. He doesnt make you feel good about yourself and you do NOT need that! He doesnt respect you and your children! You will never be alone! You have your children, your relatives, your friends, and best of all God. Do not be afraid that you can't provide anything for your children, because there are people out-there who can help you! And you can meet someone who can love you and never hurt you and make you feel the woman you are. You are not alone! |
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