the monetary wedding gift seams to be a hot topic what do you think of this?
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♥tigereye♥
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 Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 1:43 pm Post subject: |
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| That is pretty much what we did when we got married. I got married on Halloween day (in full costumes, guests too.) We had been engaged for 3 years, living together for 6 years.Instead of doing a card box, we used a dead branch to look like a spooky tree, and asked people to hang their cards and notes to it. We insisted that there not be gifts, but to instead bring their favorite Halloween treats for the reception, and include recipes so I could make everything we liked on future anniversary's. Everyone thought that that was a great idea. We ended up with 40 or 50 recipies, all where put into a book.We found that people couldn't resist attaching money to the tree, and enclosing money in the cards. We took the money we received and used it at Christmas time, to donate to toys for tots and things like that. (everyone knew that we were going to do that- they all loved the idea) |
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IamMARE
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 1:45 pm Post subject: |
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If you don't ask people for money, there's nothing wrong. I think it's a great idea.If people decide to put money into the box, it's their choice, not doing it because you requested them to. Free will, that's what it's all about!  |
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LB
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 1:55 pm Post subject: |
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| great idea! |
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sonnyboy
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 1:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Wonderful idea.Great way of thinking too.Congrats. |
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Tracey V
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 1:57 pm Post subject: |
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| That's a nice idea...If you REALLY don't want gifts (monetary or other), why don't you put the cards on the reception tables with a pretty decorated basket located on or near the bridal table...?#1: Your bestman (or whomever) can announce what the cards are for after your toast...#2: It will give the guests a chance to come up and chat with you...#3: IF they do make a monetary gift to you guys, someone (wedding party or family) is there to 'guard the box' so to speak. As horrible as it may seem, sometimes gifts and cards "disappear". Not saying that would happen at YOUR wedding but you never know!#4: I don't know if you have picked out favors or have an idea yet but I would check out having something printed on a decent pen...You want to give a favor, they need something to fill out the card with and they will certainly use it after the wedding! You could attach it to the card at each place setting.Just a few additional ideas...the advice card is cute!Good luck! |
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carrie_bazzett
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 3:04 pm Post subject: |
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| I love this idea, but I believe that Pardendo is thinking right! Money is a gift and if you tell people you don't want gifts, then you won't get any. I think you are just better off going the traditional route, accepting the gifts and cash that comes along, and then also including an advice box. Then later if you should decide, you can sell what gifts you don't want to keep on ebay! Then you would have more cash! |
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cunnitr
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 3:08 pm Post subject: |
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| That's good. You're right, people will throw a check in if they want too. You can also do just gift cards to a certain home improvement store or something like that. |
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Etiquette Gal
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 5:59 pm Post subject: |
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| It is rude to dictate or suggest others' gifts to you, even if it is to say you prefer not to receive any.If you want to be a polite wedding couple, you both need to keep quiet about your thoughts on gifts (no mentions on website, no mentions in invitations either).The only exception is if someone directly asks you for gifting ideas-- THEN you may tell that person you prefer not to receive any gifts-- "We don't have a need for anything, really-- we just want to celebrate with as many people as possible."Even so, you will still receive gifts, which you must accept graciously. |
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Alexa
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| Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2008 12:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Hey! That's a great idea!! |
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