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Johnny C
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Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:11 am Post subject: Women Please Help?????? 25 and up?

i have dated this girl for about a month, she has been hurt in past relationships and says she cannot trust her feelings right now.. her b day just past and i sent her a personalized teddybear at work.. i try to talk to her everyday, i have even pet sat while she went out with her friends.. what more can i do to show her i care without coming on too strong? i feel the last few weeks that she is being distant.. i know she doesnt want a relationship yet and i dont know if shes seeing anyone or dating anyone else.. i have made it clear i have feelings... i dont know if im wasting my time and setting myself up for heartbreak... i dont know if shes even going to get me a v day gift but i really like her... please advise..like i said we ve dated about a month (and she had a rough past) thxhow long do i give her ? i mean i want a serious relationship i think its unfair to wait if she wants to date around and look for something better... i believe in dating 1 person at a time and if that doesnt work then date another and so on not multiple people at once..she is 31 and im 27what do u reccommend as a valentines gift? just a card and stuffed animal and thats it then back off??i dont want to get her NOTHING for v day any ideas in this situation?

lovingme4me
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:15 am Post subject:

nothing u can do but be there for her

leaf
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:16 am Post subject:

Sounds to me like she's dating you because she has nothing better to do. I would suggest moving on and giving her space. If she really is interested, maybe she'll come around more.

Amber L
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:16 am Post subject:

Just leave her a note at the valentine day like what you invite her to dinner . And buy her a bunch of flowers !!!!!!

IM1RU2
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:16 am Post subject:

sounds like your doing everything right just be a good guy and not to pushey. if it is ment to be she will come around and you will be there for her. just give her time. if it is ment to be it will.

jenladybug74
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:17 am Post subject:

I think the best thing to do is give her a little space. Maybe don't call her every day, just every other day or a few days a week. Try not to be too clingy. Don't pressure her. Just be there. Also take some time to do things by yourself and keep developing your own interests and hobbies. Its hard to be with someone that only wants you and doesn't have their own life. Just relax some and when she feels less pressure, she will come around. Actions speak louder than words when it comes to trust.

Alisha A
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:19 am Post subject:

well i fink u gotta ask er wer u stand and tell er how u feel i fink da right time is v day tell er u cant live wid out er and promise er all da happiness in da world if u really love er make sure u giv er somfin and speak 2 er alone not wen ders people around coz ull jus ruin ur chance dont com on 2 stong and ask er 4 a chance trust me shell giv 2 1 n like most men dont blow it hope it helps

freaking_airhead
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:21 am Post subject:

honestly I am that girl...you want a relationship yet you don't so you really don't know what to do. You don't want to get hurt but at the same time you like the attention. But honestly the only thing you can do is give her space. Let her reach out for you instead of you constantly reaching out for her. be her friend and don't push anything until she is ready....make yourself seem more like a friend than a potential boyfriend. But if she is not responding to you as far as reaching out to you for more than just favors I would move on because she maybe just using you because you are seeming desperate in her eyes and she knows she can get alot out of you. So be careful don't get treated like dirt. Basically back off and she what she does...if she doesn't respond to you than you need to just move on because she may be playing the field or she doesn't want a relationship from you. Don't get used and take care of yourself

bar
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:21 am Post subject:

You made it clear that you like her. Now its up to her so my suggestion would be to BACK OFF! Let her call you and keep the conversation upbeat etc. when she does call. She's not ready for anything right now. Or she's not interested. I wouldn't waste anymore time on her and forget pet sitting. Go out with your friends and have fun. I'd say your wasting your time and money. Who cares about her past?.... Everyone has been dumped at sometime in their lives. Now move on and go have some fun!Get her a card for Valentines Day that isn't all mushy! Get her a funny one....And then get her a small box of candy if you must. But do me a favor! Let her CALL you and if she DOESN'T then eat the candy.

nuggeteli
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:25 am Post subject:

if she's not ready for a relationship, then you shouldn't really push it too much, coz she'll get put off, but also you shouldn't spend soo much time trying to please her, coz she might just take it to her advantage and use you. we don't know her or what she's like, but to me it sounds like she's made it clear that she doesn't want a relationship right now. you should give her some space, if she really cares about you and wants to be with you, she'll make it known. otherwise you will be heartbroken. maybe she doesn't know what she wants right now, and from her experience in the past, she doesn't want to make mistakes. maybe she needs some time to spend on herself. either way, she knows how you feel, let her decide for herself. give her space but keep in touch once in a while. good luck

manny
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Feb 12, 2008 7:28 am Post subject:

wow you seem like a really nice person but unfortunately it seems like your being used by her. she knows you have feelings for her so she's taking full advantage of you. However it could be that she really is still dealing with her past and maybe she just need ssome space So just give it some time.. Be there for her emotionally like if she need sto talk or something but don't giv her the impression that your some kind of puppy dog prepared to do her biding at the drop of a hat. Maybe if she realised that you do have a ife apart from her that there is a chance that you might not stick around for she might stand up and take notice.. Anyways.. be careful cos it really does sound like you've fallen for this gal and you might be disappionted.

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