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Dennly
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 Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:32 am Post subject: Wedding gift....? |
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| My neice was married last June and we just didn't have the money at the time to buy a gift and we couldn't atttend the wedding because of my husbands job. (quite a long distance to travel) At the time we looked at the bridal registry and there just wasn't anything we could afford on it. We have 4 children of our own and my husband is a teacher. In the past when we have given gifts to her and her sister, they have asked..."is this all?" I know their other relatives give many expensive gifts to them. I want to give them something but I feel cheap sending a gift card for $25, which is really all we can afford? Would you send it or just go on with life and spend it on your own kids? |
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julie s
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:37 am Post subject: |
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| my maid of honor and the groomsmen (my brother) who have 3 kids didnt give us anything for our wedding and it was perfectly fine... i knew they had their kids to deal with..i think you should take your $25 dollars and buy YOUR kids something nice... |
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inthewateriremain
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| If she's responded with "...is this all?" with presents before, then skip your generosity and send a nice card. A gift is not required of you, and it sounds like your kindness would be better served elsewhere. |
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leaf
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| If it were me, the first time they asked, "Is this all?" would have been the last time I ever bought them a present but if you feel like you must send something a card full of good wishes should suffice. If you are strapped for cash there is nothing saying you have to send a present. |
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haleigh's mom
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:41 am Post subject: |
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| I would send a nice card congratulating them on the wedding and that is it. Anybody who would have the nerve to ever ask "is that all" does not deserve anything!!! Shame on her!You are never REQUIRED to give a gift at any wedding. And why bother feeling cheap by sending her $25 that you really can't afford and she won't appreciate anyway. Save your money and feel cheap by just sending a card. |
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Ms. X
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:44 am Post subject: |
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| I agree with Leaf in part. The first time they asked, "Is this all?" would have been the last time I gave a gift--unless I actually attended one of their weddings. Since you didn't attend, I would have recommended you immediately send a congratulatory card. I suggest still sending a congratulatory card. But if she shakes the card, nothing should fall out of it! |
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Barbara B
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:45 am Post subject: |
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| Heavens to Betsy. It's been what 8 months since this girl married? Forget about it.Don't be pressured into sending this bride a gift of any kind. With 4 kids and the way things cost these days, that's the absolute last thing you should be spending even $25 on.This is especially in light of the rude reception your past gifts have been (is this all?) I would forgo any kind of present to this young lady (I use this term lightly).If you're asked (and given her greedy reputation, she will ask) tell her the truth. You have 4 children to raise on a teacher's salary and her reception to gifts in the past has been with the attitude of entitlement - not gratitude. |
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lalala
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 9:59 am Post subject: |
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| If in the past they have been unappreciative, I wouldn't send anything.Now if you do send a gift, $25 will be fine. Do not compare your gift to their other relatives. You are not required to send them anything (especially with their attitude) so they should accept whatever you decide to send gratefully. |
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Terri
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| Posted: Tue Feb 19, 2008 12:03 pm Post subject: |
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| You give what you can afford.If it happens to be $25, then it will be $25.If you cannot afford that, give a nice card.Do not feel cheap.They are rude, and if they were my relatives they would get nothing. Only a card, if they were lucky. |
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