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joan
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 Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 9:24 pm Post subject: what would you do if your boyfriend of 4 years did not get you anything for valentines? |
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| My boyfriend of 4 years, the father of my kids, didn't get me anything for valentines nor christmas. now i know to a lot of you this sounds crazy but this past weekend was his birthday and he went all out buying new clothes, shoes, rented a car and i even bought him the new cell phone that he wanted. Normally i would just brush this off but this guy hasnt bought me nothing " special" since our 2nd year of dating. The problem is im a young working mother i cook clean and do all the things that a good woman does and i dont get NO appreciation for it, for valentines day he slept til it was time for him to go to work which 12pm and also told me that he didnt feel like going anywhere to get me a gift. is that messed up or what?? what would you do cause honestly.... he's on his way out the door.The problem is not not receiving anything, the problem is not being APPRECIATED. I work a full time job come home and take care of OUR 3 kids and everything else that comes along with being the woman of a household. My boyfriend works a 6 hour job and out of a 24hr day, he sleeps 12-14hrs. greed and selfishness are neither of my characteristics, i would just like to be shown some gratitude for all that i do..he's a good father just a lousy boyfriend |
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jdlver
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| Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 9:30 pm Post subject: |
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| Kick him to the curb! He sounds lazy and you deserve better than that. |
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Mrs. KK
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| Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 9:31 pm Post subject: |
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| If all you care about is gifts then it's no surprise you're going to be disappointed.Is he a good father? Does he pay his bills? Is he responsible? Does he treat you with respect and courtesy all the other days of the year? If your answer is yes, then you need to stop freaking out over not getting anything. Seriously, women put too much into RECEIVING something but I rarely read of a woman wanting to GIVE something to their significant other.It's one day sweetie. If he's an all around decent father and boyfriend the other days, then stop letting a lack of gifts ruin your relationship. There's more to a loving, committed relationship than just materialistic items on overrated holidays.EDIT:Two thumbs down for that? I see the greedy and selfish are out tonight. I guess when you've been with someone as long as I have you learn a little thing called humility and not expecting something just because it's Valentine's Day. I appreciate the little things my husband does everyday, not just February 14. |
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James Watkin
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| Posted: Thu Feb 14, 2008 9:34 pm Post subject: |
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| I wouldn't be surprised. You made it clear that you accept not having a commitment when you started having kids with a boyfriend. |
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Bride2Be
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| Posted: Fri Feb 15, 2008 12:06 am Post subject: |
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| I have a wonderful Fiance who is from Russia and growing up they didn't celebrate valentines day nor did they make a big deal out of Christmas or birthdays. We have been together over 2 years and last year I didn't get anything for my birthday, Christmas,valentines day or our anniversary. At first I was pissed but I realize that there is more then getting "stuff". we have joint checking account so right now is pointless to buy each other gifts. |
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ELIZABETH P
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| Posted: Sun Feb 17, 2008 5:10 pm Post subject: |
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| I hear you ,I have a boyfriend we have been living together for 9 years and have 1 son .This valentines day he did not give me anything . today we went to the mall and he didnt even tell me if I wanted anything. he does not appreciate me I clean I do cooking and I also work and go to school. But maybe Ill give him a taste of his own chocolate I will not cook for him in 1 week .that will teach him |
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Light Knight
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| Posted: Fri Feb 22, 2008 4:24 pm Post subject: |
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| Some guys are either too self-centered or just not romantic enough to think of their mate.Why it is that these guys always seem to get devoted women to cater to them is beyond me. If nothing else you need to have equality in a relationship. Not that it needs to be 50/50 in all areas all the time, but some balance needs to be made. If it tips too far one way for too long that is not healthy for anyone. Everything that you did for his birthday, if he doesn’t, you need to do for yourself for yours. When he gets home and you are not there at the time might make him wonder. Perhaps leaving an empty vase on the table with a single empty plate with no food ready may make him think. |
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