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SH
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 Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:27 pm Post subject: Can I tell guests not to bring gift for party & give gift afterward when gift registry is ready? |
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| I can't wait or postpond party because it's surprise to birhday boy but I am not done registry yet. & Don't want people to give unnecessary gifts or gift cards of unwanted shops. |
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daeve930
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:35 pm Post subject: |
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| It's very bad form to suggest anything about gifts when you invite someone to a party. I would have to say no, you can't do that. You're registering someone for his birthday? I hope I'm misunderstanding this, because that's really too much. The only things a bridal couple should register is their patterns, china, crystal, silver. Any more than that is very presumptuous. |
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Natalie
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:36 pm Post subject: |
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| I personally think that it's rude to tell people to buy gifts later. If you have some of the registry ready then post those gifts and then add to it once you're done. My cousin did that with her wedding registry. She sent out the invites with the little card stating where she was registered and then about a month later posted the rest of the gifts on her registry. |
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Pippi Von Trapp™
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:37 pm Post subject: |
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| Instructions for gift-giving are always bad form.If you invite people to a party, all you should ever expect to appear is they themselves. Any gifts they might bring should be regarded as a pleasant surprise, not something to check off a list.And I've never heard of a gift registry for a birthday celebration. I predict that an invitation containing registry information would result in a low turn-out for the event -- it really would come across as rather pushy and not a little greedy. |
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gardeniagirl07
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 5:49 pm Post subject: |
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| All etiquette books say you are not supposed to tell anyone or leave messages in invitations as to gift-giving. It is fine to leave information about where a gift registry is located inside the card is fine. But not wanting people to 'give unnecessary gifts or gifts cards of unwanted shops' definitely is a sign of greediness and considered to be very poor taste. You shouldn't have put off the gift registry so long to where you are at the last minute of giving a surprise party with no list of gifts. I certainly hope this is a wedding you are referring to and not a birthday party because no one is obligated to give anyone else a birthday gift. A bridal registry is expected and very helpful, but a birthday gift registry is very tacky and presumptious. I wouldn't come to a birthday party that told me where I could buy gifts that are registered; however, in the situation of a wedding, it can be most helpful. |
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dottie
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 6:14 pm Post subject: |
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| No................ |
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teresathegreat
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 6:17 pm Post subject: |
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| It's rude of a host to dictate to guests on what gifts to bring, or if they should brings gifts at all. Just let them know where the guest of honor is (or will be) registered, and stress that this is where you really want gifts from.Otherwise, don't look a gift horse in the mouth. Just smile, thank them kindly, and then return the gift for cash. |
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valschmal
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| Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2008 9:18 pm Post subject: |
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| No, you cannot ask for gifts later. |
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