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Author Message RowerGirl Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:20 pm    Post subject: Is this okay? We've decided not to do a registry for our wedding. Instead, we would prefer donations made to charity. Initially we thought we'd just let people know through word of mouth. But, we've had a few people tell us that this sort of thing is okay to include in an invite.If we do this, we'd want to include a little card in the invite. Any advice on this (including "no, don't do it") would be appreciated. The wording would be something like this:"Your presense at our wedding is the only gift we want. If you do want to give something, please consider a donation to the Heart and Stroke Foundation."Is this okay?Also, how will we know if they've made a donation so we can send a thank you card? I know some people will give us a card and probably say so in the card, but others won't. I want to thank people appropriately for their generous gift.Thank you!If this is okay, should we even say the name of the charity we prefer? (Heart and Stroke.) Or, should just say to make a donation to a charity of their choosing? This also goes to the "word of mouth" option, and not just the little card in the invite. Back to top btomaselli Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:26 pm    Post subject: I don't see anything wrong with this. Sounds like a good idea and I wish more people would do the same.You could say something like:"Your presense at our wedding is the only gift we want. If you do want to give something, please consider a donation to the Heart and Stroke Foundation, the Cancer Research Society, or another organization close to your heart."That way it lets them know who you support but also lets them know to choose one of their own. I threw in the CRS just as a random group to give you an example. Back to top Hannah Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:26 pm    Post subject: Perhaps you could have the card say something like "We will have a drop-off box at the wedding with envelopes where you can donate to the Heart and Stroke Foundation in leiu of gifts." Then have a return address line on the envelopes and have a little note there saying to please fill in the return-address so you can write thank you cards to those who donate Back to top rustybones Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:29 pm    Post subject: What a wonderful thought! Your suggesting a charity is fine.I think, as far as thanking everyone, send notes to those who let you know and thank everyone, in general, for the ones you don't hear from. Back to top Miss_Suzy Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:29 pm    Post subject: My husband and I requested no gifts, and the wording went something like this: The honor of your presence is enough for us, we are therefore requesting no gifts.The charity part is kind of unrealistic, I honestly don't think anyone would do that. It just doesn't seem appropriate for a wedding. That's just my opinion. Back to top drifting240 Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:37 pm    Post subject: i'd say what you had from the beginning is good, where you say the name of the foundation and everything, and then maybe you can just say something with everyone gathered about thanking them, and also thanking them for coming Back to top Tracy M Yahoo User Posted: Sun Mar 02, 2008 8:46 pm    Post subject: I would include that in your invitation like you said. I think most people would be fine with that and not find it offense or tacky in any way. I know if I was invited to a wedding I would not feel right not bringing a gift so would glady contribute to your favourite charity in lieu of a gift. I like the answerer below who suggested having a donation box with the donation cards at the wedding. Once the donations are received by the organization they will send you a list of people who donated on your behalf so you can send them thank you cards. It is no different than a box where people put envelopes with cash in it for the bride and groom. I think your idea for a no gift wedding but charity donations is a really great idea and the charity will benefit from it which is always appreciated by them as well. Back to top nikita Yahoo User Posted: Mon Mar 03, 2008 4:49 am    Post subject: Don't do it. Don't turn your wedding into a charity drive. You can say no gifts, that's about it. Back to top

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