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Josephine
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 Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:12 pm Post subject: "Tree" for Shower ? |
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| I am the sister of the groom and have been tasked to do the "Money Tree" for my future sister in law's shower but when I Googled it, it seems many think it is in bad taste. Can I get some opinions on my idea:Purchase a real White Dogwood tree for their front yard (already checked with brother and he picked the type of tree). Place it in a pretty pot with a ribbon and instead of asking for money, make a little sign that shows the items they have registered for on their honeymoon registry (ie Massage $25, requests 5) etc. Then have little envelopes with a hole punched and a ribbon pulled through to use to tie it on the tree. This will give them a place to put money gifts, ties into their registry (both older and professional and don't need typical stuff) and it also gives them the gift of a tree for their bare yard. I am trying to avoid tacky and rude but the other sister is making it difficult. This seems like something I could live with.At least I have managed to keep the plastic tables cloths away...why do people have such a problem with proper linens these days?The Maid of Honor is her sister and her sister is throwing the shower. Let us just say that the Bride is a sweet and wonderful woman and her Maid of Honor is the Maidzilla. It is so bad I offered to accidentally drop some of the hideous things she is insisting on in the lake at the resort where they are getting married. Bride is trying to be nice but they are getting steam rolled because they don't want to start a big family fuss.Quite frankly I think it is as tacky as all get out but I want to maintain "control" over it so it doesn't end up being some hideous piece of tacky plywood with blinking lights saying, "PUT MONEY HERE AND DON'T BE STINGY". |
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fizzygurrl1980
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:15 pm Post subject: |
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| If they must have this loathsome tradition at the shower, then yes, your idea is a nice one. I feel sorry for you having to organize something so uncouth. Good luck! |
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Blunt
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Solicitation for either money or gifts is in extremely bad taste.You said that the couple was older and professional, so why in the hell they want a shower, or worse yet, a money tree???Honestly, there is NO polite or elegant way of panhandling. Gifts should be of the guests' choosing and showers should be reserved for younger couples that don't have anything.Sorry, but no matter how you put it, it's unnapropiate and in poor taste.Good luckPS/ Plastic table cloths are for children birthday parties and park barbecues. If the shower is a bbq on a park or back yard, I see no problem with that. Indoors? NO WAY. |
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Cher
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:21 pm Post subject: |
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| It sounds like alot of work for somethingthat will definitely lookeddown upon!! |
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lalala
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree with Blunt. No matter how you dress it up, it's still a "money tree". |
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IamMARE
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject: |
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| I would see if you can get out of it. It's a horrible, tacky thing to do. The guests are already arriving at the shower with gifts, now they are asked to "donate" more. Bad taste!Good luck!!! |
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gr_gal1993
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:31 pm Post subject: |
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| I'm so sorry you have to do this. It does appear to be in very poor taste. I like your idea and it seems like a good compromise, but I would "accidentally" lose those envelopes at the shower. Does the bride actually know about this thing? I would be horrified if I found it at a shower for myself.Ask some of your other relatives if they have seen this type of thing done and warn them in advance just in case they have no idea! |
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kandmsnapshots
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 12:48 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree with you, but since you do want to keep control, her is what one website said...So…what's the real story about money as a wedding gift? The first part of the story is that it is never appropriate for the bride or groom to ask for money or to include a request for money in their wedding invitation. If it is what they want or need the most, they should get the word out through family members, and it absolutely should never come from them, even if they are asked point-blank. Should that happen, the response might be that any gift is more than welcome, although money is high on their wish list because…(fill in the blank). Guests will appreciate, and are more likely to feel comfortable, giving cash if they know how their gift may be used. For example, if the bride and groom are saving for a down payment on a home or for household furnishings, honeymoon, etc. (It is a good idea to include its use in your thank you note, as well.)"To keep from making the entire shower centered on giving cash, follow these tips and ideas: * Use word-of-mouth to spread the idea of cash as a gift, instead of printing a silly and blatant poem on the wedding shower invitations asking for money. * Have the tree tucked away in a corner of the room or hall -- not at the guestbook, near gifts, or at the door. * Provide plain white envelopes to keep guests’ gift amounts private (and anonymous, if they should choose). Do not call attention to the tree by making an “announcement” or having guests line up to contribute. They will inevitably make their way to the tree and give a monetary gift if they see fit. Additionally, avoid presenting the tree to the bride-to-be during the shower. Give her the tree after the party. |
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Tricia R
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 1:15 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't take part in something that you think is tacky. You'll regret it.And yes, I think most people will think that this is tacky. |
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Luna
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 1:17 pm Post subject: |
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| i don't think you need this tree thing at all, but if the person throwing the shower really insists then i think your idea is really good. i love the idea of having an actual tree as a gift. |
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dlb_blair
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| Posted: Thu Mar 06, 2008 4:03 pm Post subject: |
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| I have seen these done with a simple tree to designate the location, and a table underneath with envelopes and an ornate bird cage to put gifts into. This allows people who wish to participate to do so quickly and quietly, without having to fuss with tying and untying ribbons or risking that someone will take an envelope that is already full. Put it by the coat closet so that people see it and pass it, but don't feel required to stop. |
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