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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:32 pm Post subject: how long does someone have to send thank you cards?

I went to a bridal shower the first weekend in february--got the bride to be a very nice gift that was out of my price range, I could not make it to the wedding , so I ordered another gift for her from her registry and had it shipped to her house--i have not received a thank you card for either gifts--the wedding was the first weekend in march. i know people get busy--am i wrong to feel that i should have least been acknowledged for sending the gift through the mail? she could have called to at say she got it at least, right? I have not heard anything from this girl at all--she wasn't a good friend, but I was trying to cultivate something--im beginning to think maybe she just has no class

Kit
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:37 pm Post subject:

Don't feel bad I attended a wedding in January and have yet to receive a thank you card.

XxRaDiAnTxTrAgEdYxX
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:38 pm Post subject:

It could be all of those reasons you might think. Usually etiquette advises that you should send thank you's out before the month is out, but some people have no tact and take their sweet time and wait for a few months to do it!

SpecialK
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:38 pm Post subject:

That is so annoying! You should have gotten the thank you for the shower a long time ago. As for the thank you for the wedding gift, you should get that no more than 6 weeks after the wedding. I went to a wedding back in June of 2005 or 2006 & I still haven't received my thank you & doubt that I will...they are divorced already!

Christina
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:39 pm Post subject:

I've read 3 months, but its taken slightly longer than that for me to receive some thank yous.

kalx3
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:40 pm Post subject:

It's usually a while... I went to a couple weddings last year and received thank you cards almost 3-4 months later!

Cher
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:41 pm Post subject:

Yes, the note of thanks are way over-due!Maybe wait a little while longer, then call and say, "I was just wandering if you everreceived the shower and wedding gifts, if not I will call Target and find out what hashappend?"

sarah
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:44 pm Post subject:

That's not right. I had my bridal shower and sent out thank you cards the next week. This person is obviously not very courteous. Yeah sure, she is busy but aren't we all. You took the time to give her a gift she should take the time to say thank you.

chaotic_dar
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:44 pm Post subject:

Etiquette states at the very most, 3 months is an acceptable timeline to send out thank you notes for a wedding... so hold your horses. Many couples now wait for pro photos to come back before they send out Thank You's because they use the photos for part of the card. Not to mention, many couples go on honeymoons, move, etc immediately following a wedding. Can take some time. Patience is a virtue. If you haven't heard anything by end of 12 weeks, I'd call someone you know or her directly and ask if the gift was received as you'd been concerned about it.

Peachy Keen, Jelly Bean
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:45 pm Post subject:

Unfortunately, a lot of brides are under the common misconception that there is a one-year-rule when it comes to Thank You cards. Although this "rule" should be once and for all abolished, a lot of brides still go by it. It could be a while before you receive a Thank You, if you receive one at all.

Shortie
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 1:46 pm Post subject:

I'd say for the wedding they still have some time to get them out...those generally take longer since they go on the honeymoon then get acclimated to their new life ect. However the bridal shower ones should have been sent. I sent mine out the next day....which obviously wasn't necessary, but they should have sent a thank you for the first gift before expecting the next

D4Pres2012
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 2:23 pm Post subject:

if you shipped the gifts through her registry website, did you get a delivery confirmation from UPS or fedex? check that now! the timeframe is 6 months to get thank you's out but personally I think there is never a reason to delay a thank you note.

riversconfluence
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Posted: Mon Apr 07, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject:

I recently read in one of the manners advice columns that the bride has up to a year to send thanks, but not to do that! I've also read that for a normal gift, 30 days is the end of polite. So 2 months is not unusual, or rude, yet. Good luck to you if you get a thank you at all, of all the weddings I've been to, got about 2 thank yous. And it was not the gift, most were straight off the registry, or money. People just do not do that anymore. They think that the purchase of thank you cards and a stamp is a waste of money, I've heard people say that. So, I sent a spice rack to a bride, off her registry, she had whined at work that she had not recieved it yet. It was $69 plus tax, plus wrapping it nicely: $6. and $3 for the card. And I did not go to the wedding, and rsvp'd in plenty of time, immediately after I was invited, it was a group invitation, posted on the bulletin board at work. [ translation, don't come, just give us a present]. No thank you card. Gave $50 and a nice card to the daughter of my best friend, had seen the girl once in my life, [she was 2 years old then], went to the wedding, was fed cheese, they forgot the crackers, and a piece of cake from the grocery, and coffee. No thank you card. I understand that brides work for a living, and it does take a little time to write out thank you cards. And brides out there, if you ever want another present from that person again, send a thank you! You will be having a shower for a baby soon, and people are not going to be generous if they did not get thanked for the wedding present!and people who write checks want to know if you got it, so if you didn't, they can stop payment on it, or have the bank investigate it, so cash checks promptly. And people who sent you things, same thing, they want to track down what happpended to the package if you did not get it , when the trail is still warm.

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