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djk_dragon
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 Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:32 pm Post subject: Should I give up or keep trying to win her over? |
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| There is this girl that I really like. She is amazing, massively intelligent, and really nice. I've been going on what I would call dates, took her to dinner a couple times, we have watched movies together, we even exchanged gifts on valentines day.I took her to the circus Saturday night. We had an amazing time and I bought her a toy lightsaber that they were pushing to sell at the booths. She even insisted that I buy one too so we could have sword fights. We went back to her dorm and had sword fights across campus and on every floor in her dorm building. At the end of the night I didn't even get a hug. I feel like there might be something but she could just be really friendly. Any advice anyone? Is she just a really good friend or is there a chance there are feelings hidden there but since we are both really shy no one has made a move toward something more?We did hug on valentines day and she is very very indecisive. She also always waits for an exact offer. Like if i say "do you think you would be interested in going to dinner sometimes" she wont give an exact answer but if I say directly "would you like to go out to dinner with me Thursday night" she smiles and says yes. So I'm wondering if she just wants me to make the small moves first. I really want to take things snail slow but after around 3 or 4 months it would be nice to move into some kind of affection like hugs or hand holding. |
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thetr1p
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:36 pm Post subject: |
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| Be a man make a move |
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Nathan A
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| why dont you ASK her? |
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D3V!N
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| If you dont have patience things really wont work out.Just inform her that you would like the relationship to go to the next level.Yea its easy for me to say, but most likely hard to do.But try to work up the courage or at least give an indication that you want to take the next step up. |
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notyou311
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| It is time for a conversation. Tell her that you really enjoy being with her and that you hope you can be more than just friends. Her answer will tell you what you need to know. |
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rob22012000
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| she needs something from you but obviously not in a physical way, your just a friend and she probably doesnt want to hurt yor feelings, she is a nice girl for being so kind to you tho. |
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Joe Capo
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| She's waiting for you to make the move. She's testing you. Get with the program. |
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Ashley Cavanaugh
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:37 pm Post subject: |
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| if you like her keep going, don't give up just because your not sure if she likes you, just talk about it with her.. if she is really touchy feely with you she must like you but if you don't wanna risk just asking her then to be for sure make something up like so and so keeps making jokes that you like me or we're together and see how she reacts. |
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ekta60
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:38 pm Post subject: |
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First of all, i dont know why people play mind games with eachother. you seem like a nice guy. I would just pull her aside one day and tell her how you feel. dont need to be dramatic about it but who knows what shes thinking till you just ask. there is no harm in being upfront. many ppl even appreciate it more than you can realize. i think she does like you. us girls like it when the guy takes initiative so she mgiht just be waiting for you to say something and how do you know shes not just thinking the same thing like "oh hes just being a nice guy" by buying her stuff and taking her out. you never know till you try to find out so take that chance i dont think you will be dissapointed  it might even bring you two closer |
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K.fish
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:38 pm Post subject: |
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| It seems so far that perhaps she doesn't realize how you feel about her. It may be a good idea to either more forward so she gets the idea or maybe even talk to her about how you feel. |
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classicalguitar4god
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:38 pm Post subject: |
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| The way it sounds, she considers you a really good friend.You'll never know until you make a move though. |
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Geo friend
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:39 pm Post subject: |
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| you should have tried hugging her to see her reponse. i imagine you are in college since you were on the dorms, i know your shy, but be mature and just ask her straight up if there is anything more there. otherwise, you wont know how she feels and possibly be waisting your time. good luck men. |
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john
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yahoouser
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:39 pm Post subject: |
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| its totally obvious she enjoys your company, but maybe she isn't ready to get serious. when it comes to physical contact, its a big emotional step for most girls...so she probably wants to take it slow and keep things lightweight. keep on doing what your doing, just play her game. be patient and wait for her to become more confortable with you. =) show her by action that your not looking for something to just bang and leave, cause she might be thinking that. show her thats its okay to be how we are right now, and sooner or later the friendship can progress into something more little by little. |
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nylentone
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| Posted: Sun Apr 06, 2008 10:41 pm Post subject: |
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| She sounds like a great girl... maybe she is just happy to find a guy who can actually start a relationship instead of jumping into bed on the first date. I think you need to make a SMALL move. |
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