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lovelyflorist
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 Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 6:36 pm Post subject: How to help my bf out of this hardship situation?? |
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| Actually I have been dating with him for several years. At first, he got a good job- while we were dating he was the one who was always paying for our meals and brought gifts for me on my birthdays and valentine days, and ect. Recently he has been unemployed for over a year- with his depression and people tended to despite him because he is broke. I let him borrow slightly over $2,000. I paid for our meals when we go out and eat. When we meet, he will use my car because I know he is poor right now- when the gas is low, I pay. Thinking of the old times what he did for me that's why I don't calculate of anything. He has a bachelor in Performing art and dance- such a major won't earn him any money. He tried very hard to find a job but seem no luck. Technically, I want to help him as much as I can because I think once a person falls in a difficult circumstance so ask-for-help is necessary but I don't want him to rely on me.Do you have any other ideas? |
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smiles_with_4
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 6:47 pm Post subject: |
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| I think that it is great that you have supported him through this difficult time since in the beginning he was always doing for you. I think it has hit a point now that you are enabling him to stay depressed. You should encourage him to keep looking even if it is in a different field. Maybe start looking for job opportunities yourself that you can present to him as an option or a job placement agency could be helpful too. Sort of went through the same thing with my husband and he got back on the horse and feels so much better now that he is back out in the working world. Hope this helps and good luck. |
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masochisticgirl
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 6:50 pm Post subject: |
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| Fair enough he's your boyfriend of course you'll want to help him out, with that type of degree he can work a part or full time job in the mean time and still attend auditions until he gets a role then he could quit his job. However he may never get one it is a tough business to get into and he may want to consider taking up further study or working in something else he likes, until then depressed or not its not excuse for you to be supporting him for that amount of time tell him in a polite way of course |
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Stephen R
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| Posted: Sun Apr 13, 2008 6:53 pm Post subject: |
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| He needs to get a job no mater what it is!! That will help him get out of his depression. Even if the job is in an unrelated field, service industry's always need help, there not great jobs and they usually don't pay much but it will give him a direction and a few bucks in his pocket. Then he can look for the perfect job. You paying for him all the time is nice but it gives him no purpose and no reason to try to get out of his hole. Just my opinion. |
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