NO CLUE WHICH TO CHOOSE: Spend 25th bday in SAN FRANCISCO? or go to best friends baby shower on my bday???????

Vaginal Discount · Yahoo User

I will be 25 on Saturday. I kept my 'plans' open (as usual) so that way I could do something fun/spontaneous on my birthday. Well I found out a week ago that my VERY good friend, who I have known for 7 years, is having her "baby shower" on MAY 3, which is my birthday. She's always been good to remember my birthday before in the past, however, when I said "oh that’s my birthday' she acted as if she forgot that was my special day and kind of wondered if would impact whether I would be there or not "?". I did tell her I would be there, however its kind of weird I never got an invitation in the mail. When I asked her what time it started, she said either 3/4/5pm. Its a dif. kind of shower than the traditional norm. Its a Philippine shower, so a bunch of her family will be there. She said her mom sent out over 100 invitations last minute, but its more of a party/feast in their tradition. Well do I go to her shower? Or should I give her a gift a day early, and go out of town with my husband? We have no kids and so it would kind of be a romantic get away. I cant go to her party, then go out of town because the party of hers is an hour and half in the wrong direction of San Francisco, and we cant leave Saturday Night or Sunday.So….cancel my 25th birthday for a friend? And do something boring locally? It wouldn’t quite be the same, also if we went the following weekend. Its so much more fun and real to do things on the exact day of celebration. However, I don’t want to seem self centered. This sucks!!!!!!!!!!