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kill_yr_television
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| Mannerly people are (at least in their public words and actions) above noticing who gave and who did not, above noticing the cash value of gifts. My advice is to vent a little and get it over with, then zip it. No matter how negligent your BIL may have been, and no matter how much your husband may share your indignation, there is also a part of him (your husband) that resents anyone finding fault with his brother. As to the "how would you feel" stuff, I would strive to just let go of any negative feelings instead of nourishing them. Tell your bossy brooding brain to think about something positive instead -- fake it until you make it. |
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daisy519
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 7:25 pm Post subject: |
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| you're right they should have bought a present especially if they came to the wedding. some people are just tacky |
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Reba
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 8:25 pm Post subject: |
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| I can understand how you feel, I would probably feel hurt too. Unfortunately we don't choose our family, so what i would suggest is stop being overly generous to his family. Maybe they are so wrapped up in their own family stuff that they are taking other people for granted. Who knows, I truly don't know what goes through peoples minds! I am with you I would never not give a gift to my sister.Since I don't know him I can't say if he is a jerk or just clueless, talking to him may not help. I find actions speak louder than words. You definitely want to continue to be the nice and loving people you are, but don't over do it!! |
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Sunny
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 9:25 pm Post subject: |
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| well all the proper etiquette books say guests have up to 1 year after the wedding to give a gift. i personally think that is crazy, i mean who would actually wait a year. but you said you've only been married a couple months.. so maybe a gift will be coming?????????? |
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dlb_blair
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 10:31 pm Post subject: |
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| A strong need to be a positive influence in the life of four children who will not get instruction in basic curteousy from their own parents. |
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Katherine B
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| Posted: Fri May 02, 2008 10:49 pm Post subject: |
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| I would feel exactly how you are feeling.Maybe in the future you two quit being so generous.Some people may say that would be acting petty but that is how I would do it.He could have told your husband they were strapped for cash and could not buy you a gift before the wedding if that were the case. |
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OZZIEGAL
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| Posted: Sat May 03, 2008 1:43 am Post subject: |
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| so you only want responses that agree with you? sorry, i guess i am not allowed to respond. |
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