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Dimples
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 Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 4:47 pm Post subject: Should i still...? |
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| Me and my man had an argument this weekend that passed and he said some really hurtful things. he told me in other words that this is not my house. he payed for everything because i was 6 months pregnant and he wanted to get everything done at once. he led me to believe that this home was my christmas gift. when he opened the door to the house for me to see everything finished he said merry christmas to me and it was days before christmas. now its a different story. he says technically its his mothers house.To make a long story short, I dont feel like I am the woman of the house any more. i thought he bought this house for our baby, him, and I. I guess i was wrong I feel that his mother will rip us apart one day. he think she is god. Her comments was another reason why we were arguing. I want to know, should i still have sex with him? i had my baby a month ago and he wants sexual attention. I feel disrespected, should i havesex with him? i am afraid he will think everything is ok |
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Sandy Ego
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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| Whose name is on the deed? That should tell you whose house it is. If I were you, my main concern wouldn't be whether or not to have sex with him - it would be with the deeper issues in the relationship, like him not treating you as an equal partner and throwing things in your face. |
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daljack
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 4:53 pm Post subject: |
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| 1....his mother can't break you up only the two of you can do that.2...having sex with him will give him what he wants....what do you want3...if this were me....I'd find a place for me and the baby to live and take him to court for child-support. He doesn't respect you or the child. |
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Lela A
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 4:55 pm Post subject: |
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| regroup, get some kind of counseling or talking to someone is what you want to do |
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crissy
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 5:00 pm Post subject: |
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| Shoot I would be pisssed if I didn't get me Xmas present....But don't give him any. Leave him. |
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Brianna H
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 5:03 pm Post subject: |
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| 1. Sex should never be used as leverage. Have sex if you feel like it.2. All moms think their sons are God. Learn how to deal with her.3. Technically, the house IS yours, the place where you live with your children (and which was paid for in full) , under any law, is yours and your child's'.I think it's time you both learn to communicate with each other in the same language. If you don't feel like having sex, say it. Clearly and without disrespecting him, say what you feel.Learn how to have conversations with him, let him speak his mind, too. When you have achieved a positive communication process, your mother in law will be the last of our problems.Be smart, she will never change, you on the other hand, can learn how to get close to her and be accepted. |
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Grace
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 5:04 pm Post subject: |
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| If you're upset, you need to talk about it. If you withhold sex, he's going to think you're trying to spite him (which you might be doing). It sounds like his true feelings came out during the argument. Regardless of what he said, he can't take it back. Is your name on the deed? Are you two married? |
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momof8
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 5:04 pm Post subject: |
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| Your problems can't be solved in bed, nor can they be solved by withholding sex. You two need to have a serious conversation about the future and what you both want out of it. |
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yuan7890
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 5:05 pm Post subject: |
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| no |
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firebetty74
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| Posted: Tue May 06, 2008 5:08 pm Post subject: |
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| If you're married, many states say that you own half that house, regardless of who paid for it. If you're not married, well, if he paid for it, it's his. Unless he quit-claimed you the deed you have no legal claim to it.As for the having sex with him part...before giving it up, I would seriously discuss your issues with a marriage counselor. If this is a one-time argument, then it may not be a big deal, but he's clearly feeling like you're not contributing (financially) to the relationship, and he's telling you so. This is a form of manipulation. If you just had a baby a month ago, how are you supposed to go out and work 40 hours a week? I don't have kids, but I know that a newborn is a TON TON TON of work. I thought you were supposed to wait a certain length of time before having sex again after child-birth? |
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