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Callie
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Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 8:54 pm Post subject: How can I thank people, whom I didn't invite to my wedding, for wedding gifts?

I just had my wedding Saturday, and got lots of gifts, and some of those are from friends/family that I didn't invite to the wedding. It's not that I didn't want them to come, but me and husband had to pay for the majority of the wedding and just did not have enough money to cover the expense of a bunch of people. Anyways, when I send them thank-you cards, what should I say on the card?? I feel really guilty because I could not invite them, but it just was not practical. Any advice? Thanks!!

butterfly_30
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 8:59 pm Post subject:

Maybe you can have a get together, where you can invite the folks that were in the wedding, family, and the people that you didn't invite you can watch the video together, as well as check out the pics, and possibly explain why some of them weren't invited, but still give them Thank you's.

♥ Sweet Karoline ♥
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:00 pm Post subject:

Just thank them for the gift, there isn't a need to mention the wedding they didn't attend. Something along the lines of:Thank you for your gift to celebrate our marriage. Your thoughtfulness means so much to us.Congrats on your wedding!

apbanpos
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:00 pm Post subject:

Thank you for the gift, it meant a lot to us that you were thinking about us.Simple is best - don't over worrry - they knew they weren't invited, and likely understood why - and wanted to give you something anyway.Honor that with a simple "Thank you" and no need to explain or excuse yourself.

SoUledOut4Christ!
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:02 pm Post subject:

Just tell them thanks for their gift and for coming to your special day. This is just the polite thing to do. You can also just get the thank you cards that have something already written in them and this will save you the trouble... Good luck!

Elizabeth
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:02 pm Post subject:

"Dear John and Mary,Thank you so much for the blender. It was so thoughtful of you! We both love margaritas so it will be put to good use, I assure you. We are leaving on our honeymoon in a couple of days and will be returning by the 19th so we will give you a call when we are back in town - we would love to get together soon! Much love and thank you again,Jeff and Jennifer"

Elsie
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:06 pm Post subject:

Obviously these people were not offended, or they wouldn't have taken the time, effort and expense of buying you a gift. Thank them for their genorisity, tell them how much you appreciate it, and tell them you'll call them when you get back from the honeymoon so you can make plans to get together. Then call them and make plans. Bring your wedding proofs and/or wedding video (DVD) to share with them .

Victoria H
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject:

JUST SAY THANK YOU , THEY THOUGHT OF YOU, DONT FEEL GUILTY, IF THEY SENT YOU GIFST IS CAUSE THEY KEW YOUR SITUATION, OR YOU CAN WRITE THANK YOU FOR THE LOVELY............, EVERYTIME IL USE IT I WILL BE THINKING OF YOU, AS YOU THOUGHT OF ME. OR US

Shanti MT
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject:

Thank them graciously for the gift and include a personal note about how useful it will be, how the two of you will use it.

Suz123
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:17 pm Post subject:

Dear Ms. X,Thanks so much for the ice-cream maker. We love ice cream, and we will have to invite you to our first ice-cream social in our new home. Thanks again for thinking of us.Love,Bride and GroomDear Mr. Y,Thanks so much for the generous check. We are saving for a new sofa and we will put your gift toward that. Thank you again. We truly appreciate your thoughtfulness.Sincerely,Bride and GroomSee? It's easy. No mention is made of the wedding at all. People do understand about space and budget limitations. It is not necessary to mention the wedding in your thank-you notes.

thesongfairy
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:18 pm Post subject:

The same way you thanked the people who came. Write a thank you note thanking them for the gift. Most people figure out why they didn't get invited, meaning in a kind, rational way, and don't take it personally. But the reason you didn't get a gift from me was because I wasn't invited. So there.....LOL. 8~)

teacherK
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 9:35 pm Post subject:

Slip a wedding photo in the thank you card! It's just a sweet little gift in return, and they'll get to see what you looked like even if they weren't there. No need to feel guilty.

riversconfluence
Yahoo User

Posted: Wed May 07, 2008 10:19 pm Post subject:

No, do not mention the wedding at all. People can be so generous, and most people do understand about budgets and guest lists. To mention it would be like rubbing their nose in the fact that they were not invited. Unless they ask, drop the topic.Try this: Dear Aunt Matty and Uncle Lee, thank you so much for the beautiful Waterford candlesticks! John and I love them, and they will go in a place of honor in the middle of our new dining room table. I can't wait for our first candlelit dinner in our new home!Thank you so much again, Love, LeslieSimple thank you rules: the person to whom the present was given does the thank you, and mentions the new spouse in the body of the thanks, but does not sign it with both names. If the groom wishes to help out, fine, but he should use the bride's name in the body of the card.Actually, the old rule was to address the present given before the wedding to the bride.

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