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¶Novaj¶
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 Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:53 pm Post subject: my older brother? |
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| My older brother never calls home and rarely comes home...He's 23 and has a job, lives with gf, and has a job up north. But he never calls home or does anything with his family. Here are some instances: He never calls my mom on mother's day or buys a card for her or anything, he never calls home on my birthday or any occasion, graduation etc. He never buys us gifts for christmas, instead he buys stuff for all his friends...When he comes home he just spends all his time with his gf who lives in LA. I mean he sees her the whole year but during those few days home can't he stay with his family...geez. I don't know, I just don't feel connected with him and I sometimes forget I even have a brother truthfully...Is this normal for him, cause I hate him for this...putting friends and gf in front of family...when my grandma had surgery he didn't bother calling her or even when my dad went to the hospital...Is my brother distancing from us on purpose or what...My parents work so hard to get him through college, and pay for his $40,000 car after college. I feel like he doesn't appreciate his family at all...He never calls my mom or dad on their birthdays nor on any holiday...I feel like this occured when he went to college and got his girl friend...I know he's busy but at least try to stay connected with family and care about them instead of constantly putting friends and girl friend in front of family...I think that's just wrongI do tell him but he doesn't listen or just forgets right away...I doesn't even know how old i am...*"He doesn't even know how old I am or what grade i am in..." |
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I MiSs U aLrEadY
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Some people just feel connected more to their friends... alot of people are starting to put friends before family... I would just let him know that you miss having him around.. ask him, How come you never come around? He probably doesnt realize how he is making you guys feel... |
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chris o
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Yea thats messed up, I think he is trying to live his own life. But you still have to remember where you came from. |
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pretty pink princess
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| Posted: Tue May 13, 2008 11:59 pm Post subject: |
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| wow. that is a bit sad. I cant believe he did that? I would call mom like everyday if i was him...I think your brother is your brother but he might stay like that for ages.. |
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lesterlee
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| Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 12:10 am Post subject: |
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| Sounds like he doesn't have the time to appreciate his family like he should, or maybe he does but does not want to face the everyday trials and tribulations in life..."what I don't know can't hurt or bother me." or he simply takes his family for granted. For some people birthdays and other various celebrations aren't importnat especially when younger,and only become more important when they have their own families. One day he may wake up a sorry fellow when he realizes the people who have loved him and supported him the most are no longer there. Frankly I am guessing he is so busy in his own life that he probably doesn't realize how neglectful he is being. I don't know what his reaction to talking to him about this would be..you'd be the best judge of that. I'll bet he'll figure it out someday...but hopefully it will not have to take a family crisis to make him see the light. Wish I could be of more help to you on this. |
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