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Ava
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Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:40 pm Post subject: What do you think of the idea of a honeymoon registry?

In my culture wedding registries are uncommon. In rare occasions people sometimes suggest they want money, by either printing it bluntly in the invitations or "subtly" printing an envelope icon on there. I know that in the States it is much more common to have a bridal registry. Now, I happen to think telling your guests in any way what they have to buy for you is rude. But now my fiance, who is American, has brought up the idea of a honeymoon registry, where people can give you parts of your honeymoon (nice dinner, etc) as a "gift". What do you think of this? We already have all we need in the house and he says he doesn't want to end up with a bunch of appliances we won't need. But the thought of this registry just makes me cringe.One thing about Y!A I will never understand is some people's tendency to get nasty. Ok, you don't think it's such a great idea, neither do I. But must you be so mean about it? Greedy? Tacky? I agree that asking for money is rude. But I don't see the difference between a honeymoon registry and a bridal registry. Why is it "tacky" to ask for a spa treatment on your honeymoon, and not tacky to ask for a toaster. Isn't it basically the same thing?

You don't know me!
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:46 pm Post subject:

I said the same thing about registries! But it helps people know what to get you...some people really dont know what to get you and really WANT to. I wasn't going to have one..but..I made one for my family who dont know me at all lol. I think your idea for a registry is awesome! Its different and you can both really enjoy it...rather than a toaster that you wont have for more than a few yrs. You'll always have that honey moon!! ♥

CindyLu
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:46 pm Post subject:

Me too. People do not want to pay for your honeymoon, might as well ask for money outright it would be just as tacky but more honest. If you already have all you need let it go and graciously accept whatever your guests bring you. That is what you are supposed to do because bringing a gift is totally up to the individual guests. This is a bad idea that makes you look greedy and grasping.

thinkpinkpunkrock
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:51 pm Post subject:

Bridal registries are more a 'wish list' not a 'you have to buy me such and such gift' ...Honestly, I think the bride and groom should pay for their honeymoon. It's them wanting to go on one. jmho. Do whatever makes you guys happy though. It's your guys' big day! Congrats!

Violet Pearl
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject:

I would not pay for someone's honeymoon. No. I think it's tacky and greedy and downright immature to want a big trip but expect people to pay for it.If you're lucky enough to have every thing you need, then don't have a registry and don't expect gifts. But don't stoop to asking for people to buy your honeymoon.

Cloves.
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 6:52 pm Post subject:

I think a honeymoon registry is alright if the guests are purchasing specific items for your honeymoon. My friend did this, and they had a website set up where they could purchase things like, scuba diving lessons, champagne and strawberries for two, etc. It was very cute the way it was set up. You didn't feel like it was just fishing for money the way some honeymoon registries are set up, so be careful which one you choose. Don't pick one where the guest just enters a dollar amount, and thats all. Make them feel like they are really purchasing something special for you. Always write a thank you note, and when you do, mention what was purchased on the honeymoon registry. Say, "we had such a great time learning to scuba dive. Thanks so much, Uncle John." You get the idea. Also, I would suggest a "regular" registry as well. You may not need many items, but I would still suggest putting a few household items on a traditional registry. That way, older guests can still feel included. Some don't get the concept of a honeymoon registry, or they may just want to buy you something more traditional. So at least leave the option open for guests who do want to do that. Overall, its a very modern idea thats becoming more common. And, yes, it is rude to ask for money from guests. You should never expect it. But registries are not rude, because guests chose to buy or not to buy and what to buy or not buy. It just gives them an idea of what you want or need. There is a huge difference between a honeymoon registry asking for $50 or $100 from guests, and a honeymoon registry which allows guests to give specific things for you two. Also, make sure that the items are varying in price, same as with a regular registry. Good luck!

Inundated in SF
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 7:14 pm Post subject:

If you are uncomfortable with the idea, don't do it. You're as much a part of this wedding/honeymoon as your fiance. And someone who is going to give you a toaster is going to give you a toaster whether you have a gift registry somewhere or not. Just let your families and close friends know that if anyone asks what you guys really need, to tell them that you both have already furnished your home and don't really need "things" so money would be a welcome gift. Word of mouth does get around. When people know you two have been a couple, especially if you've been living together, they figure you have already acquired household goods and will ask your friends/family what you want.I like knowing what the couple need so I'm all for registries--I can disregard the registry if I feel like it and give them something else or I can also give them something they actually need or want which a registry provides for me. It's not mandatory, just lets gifters know what you want. And know that you can always return duplicates for cash (or credit) since they are wedding gifts. You also don't have to limit yourself to department stores. My brother & his (at the time) fiance registered at camping goods stores because that's what they liked to do but couldn't afford to buy a tent and stuff. Friends who liked to ski registered at a ski place (they usually went to) for lift tickets and got to ski all winter for free. A coworker was into home repair and registered with a few of the large home repair stores. As a wedding gift for a couple last summer, the couple knowing that in their job market they'd have jobs that were short-term only so they asked for gift cards to food places and grocery stores near them so at least they knew they wouldn't starve. Unless you're marrying into a social class that is strict and unimaginative, you can get creative with your "registries."

jennyfer312
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 7:53 pm Post subject:

tacky

dein_85
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 8:22 pm Post subject:

A honeymoon registry is a great idea. Like another person said, people want to know what they can get you that you'll like. Just suggest certain aspects of the honeymoon that people can pay for (or split between a few people) like the plane tickets, places that you would like to go see, money for nice dinners and drinks, some spa treatments or pedicures and maybe some traveling gear (if you're going tropical, for instance, they could buy some sunblock, a couple of beach towels, a bikini wrap, things like that). People are going to buy you things (most people in the states think that it's rude to ask for money, and some think it's rude to give money). Just accept them. And give them a good idea of what will make you happy.

Future Mrs. Q 10/4/08
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri May 30, 2008 11:20 pm Post subject:

I think its a great idea! We too have everything we need for our house, and its a fun way to help finance the honeymoon of your dreams!People are going to want to purchase a gift for you. You might as well give them some ideas of what you want or you could get anything. Whenever I am invited to a wedding and I see a gift registry listed, I'm thankful because it takes out the guesswork for me and I can get them exactly what they NEED!!!

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