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I have to organize my Friend's wedding shower and she is not registered. She would prefer gift cards..?


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lmd_71
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Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:19 pm Post subject: I have to organize my Friend's wedding shower and she is not registered. She would prefer gift cards..?

How can I word that on an invite? She currently lives with her fiance and their wedding was planned on very short notice.

angelhaiku
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Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject:

Um... it's going to be rude how ever you do it I think. Is there any way she can take 2 or 3 hours and go to Bed, Bath and Beyond or Linens and Things and make a registry? It's so much nicer to buy someone SOMETHING than to just get a gift card. If you're insistent upon the gift cards, you could put in the invitations "Gift cards are greatly appreciated" But I would really try to have her register somewhere. In a few years people will go over to her house and see the toaster they bought her and it'll be much more satisfying than going to her home and thinking "hmm... I wonder what my money got spent on? Baby diapers?"

Tinky
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:24 pm Post subject:

It's tacky to suggest to just give gift cards, it's like saying we want money only. I mean even if it's the truth. But if you must, then I would say something like "the bride and groom are saving for a ENTER BIG PURCHASE ITEM HERE and would appreciate gift cards from ENTER STORE NAME(S)A better way to do it is to have the bride register for a few items, there must be something she has to upgrade or wants and then most stores will add in something about gift cards in any denomination.

melouofs
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Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:26 pm Post subject:

I wouldn't want to go to a shower like that. Whatever she's planning to buy with the gift cards are the things she can register for. If she doesn't need anything, she doesn't need a shower.

nova_queen_28
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:27 pm Post subject:

To re-iterate the previous response ... it is rude.If she wants gift cards, she really should be able to come up with a registry. PLUS these days you can do alot of the registry stuff online and not even set foot in the stores.If I were a guest invited to that shower, I wouldn't give a gift card. Showers are the time when I want to buy something for the couple. The wedding is when I would usually give cash. I think it is much easier for the bride to select what she would like rather than have people aimlessly buying things that she will end up returning later anyway.Try to get her to come up with a registry!

○•○•Cassie•○�
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:28 pm Post subject:

I would put your name and number on the invite as a contact person and you'll just have to field the calls as people call to see if she's registered. I wouldn't put it on the invite. When people ask you just politely tell them they couple isn't registered but you know they would appreciate gift cards to "___" so they can save them and get one or two big things. Most people will understand that couples are usually getting married later in life and most likely already have a home set up. Some people though refuse to give the couple what they really want or need and will bring a gift they don't need anyway. That's why a lot of couples end up with 7 toasters that will just end up in a garage sale. When people give a gift it should be as a token for the couple. They shouldn't dictate what it should go towards.

boodoll33
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:33 pm Post subject:

In any etiquette it is rude to ask for any gifts at all. So I would just let people RSVP and if they ask where she is registered, tell them no where and let the guest decide on their own what gift they will give if any at all...

Mrs. Jack Sparrow ♥
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:41 pm Post subject:

I went to a shower that on the invitation read "Gift Cards Only" my friends and I STILL laugh at how tacky that crap was. People want to buy a gift and want to be remembered for it!Tell her to get off her lazy azz and go to BBB or somewhere like that and make a registry!!

Say
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:43 pm Post subject:

She can register online pretty much anywhere, if it is a matter of not being able to get out and do it. If she is refusing to register because she only wants gift cards.... well then she is kinda rude and needs a kick in the ass to straighten her out. If she does not want to register because she doesn't care about getting gifts (as I am sure is the case) then just send the invites for the shower, and if someone asks just say she did not register anywhere. Then people can get her whatever they want. Its really not that big of a deal. For the shower people like to bring gifts. She will get all the money at the wedding.

quiet_hands
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 12:49 pm Post subject:

My husband and I were already living together for 2 years when we got married, so we already had everything we wanted for our house. I came up with the idea of my guests giving me gift cards for different restaurants so we could enjoy some dates together. I understand that it can be hard to register for items, it’s overwhelming. I think that she has the right idea to ask for gift cards instead of registering, especially since it was so last minute. Every single one of my friends who registered received doubles and had to return items because they couldn’t fit everything they registered for, or their tastes changed.Don’t write anything about the gift cards on the invites… Just make sure that her mother, sisters and bridesmaids know that she wants gift cards for her shower, they can spread the word to the other guests.

michelle H
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 1:28 pm Post subject:

you can register at most stores for gift cards you just set up a registry and check gift cards

gr_gal1993
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 1:46 pm Post subject:

Honestly, the point of a shower is give the bride gifts (not gift cards) for her new life as a married woman. If she doesn't want gifts, then it's best to omit the bridal shower and just have a luncheon in honor of the bride with a few close friends and relatives.I wouldn't attend a shower where the bride was requesting cash or gift cards because it seems tacky. If she already has everything she needs, then she doesn't need a shower. I realize that registering for gifts is a bit time consuming, but she really needs to find the time to go and register.Otherwise, I recommend having a recipe shower for her. Ask everyone to bring a copy of their favorite recipe and the main (non-perishable) ingredients. I think it's similar to what they used to call a "pounding" in the UK. Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!

valschmal
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue May 27, 2008 2:39 pm Post subject:

While it is technically not rude to mention gifts or registries on a shower invitation, I totally agree with everyone else in saying that if they are not registering for gifts, they don't need a shower. Not in the technical or traditional sense of the word; a shower is for showering the couple with gifts. You have several options.Tell your friend that since a shower is for giving and opening gifts & she doesn't want that, you would really feel more comfortable having a different type of get-together for her. Either a cocktail or dinner party, a b'maids' luncheon, lingerie shower or something like that. If she really wants a shower, tell her that you don't feel comfortable mentioning gift cards to shower guests who are going to expect to and want to bring an actual gift. Suggest that she register for a few higher priced items she has always wanted like a great cappucino machine, monogramed towels, a digital camera, etc. It is almost impossible for someone to have absolutely everything they need or want! These are probably your best bets on this situation, b/c remember, my dear, you don't want this to reflect badly on you and your manners & that's just what would happen!

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