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carytop
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Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 12:50 pm Post subject: Should i expect at least a thank you card?

i have a female friend who i've been sending gifts to for several years on her birthday, christmas, valentines day and mothers day. she has never sent me a thank you card in the mail, and she only seems to send a thank you email after she has received something. one female friend says this person is rude for all the support i've given her, and another says i should give without any expectations. Any thoughts?some additional information, especially for douche bag. i am not the one who actually complained, but it's a few female friends who have said she's taking advantage of me and if she can't take the time to send a card on my birthday or just say hello, she's not worth supporting and being such a good friend to. i never give anything expecting something in return. plus, she's started requesting certain gifts before her birthday and christmas, which some have said is quite tacky.

fiohnax0x
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 12:53 pm Post subject:

Yes, stop sending her gifts.

tarheeler
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 12:54 pm Post subject:

If you feel shunned, stop sending her stuff. I bet that gets her attention. And you really shouldn't send stuff and expect something in return or it's not really a gift.

Dr. K
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 12:58 pm Post subject:

As long as she thanked you via e-mail, that should be good enough. I don't think a "Thank You" has to be extravagant to prove that it's meaningful.

stormyj
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 12:59 pm Post subject:

If it bothers you that much, stop sending gifts. Personally, I would be okay with the email thank you. It's still an acknowledgement of the gift. With the cost of everything these days, it is not unusual in my circles to exchange emails saying thanks.

alias0110
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 1:00 pm Post subject:

I think a thank you e-mail is still polite. Plus your other friend is right. When you give something it should be without expectations.

DOUCHE BAG
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 1:01 pm Post subject:

So when you give gifts, you expect something in return, whether it be a card or not?I hope to god I never receive anything from you. Why give her anything when you do it for that reason? A gift is a gift...

cccasc
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 1:12 pm Post subject:

In the good old days you sent a thank you card when some one sent you a thinking of you card. Unfortunately with the modern day advances those days have long since past. You should never give to get. You should give something because you want to, not because you want appreciation or acknowledgment. It would be nice of her to provide you with the appreciation and the acknowledgment that you do deserve. Does she send you presents on these holidays and your birthday as well?

next?
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 1:13 pm Post subject:

You have set yourself up for a fall; this person is not a friend in any sense of the word and you absolutely have the right to expect not only an acknowledgment but a thank you as well. This behavior is simply outrageous and you should have stopped with the gifts long ago. Start NOW and refuse any more gifts and if she asks why say you never knew if she received them because you never heard back from her...does she send YOU gifts?

D.C. B
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 1:29 pm Post subject:

You can expect what ever you want.

Chris B
Yahoo User

Posted: Tue Jun 03, 2008 6:58 pm Post subject:

There seem to be two issues here. First - getting a thank you card. You mention that she sends a thank you email, and in this day and age, that is considered the same as a Thank You Card, so she really does have that covered.The other issue though is that you send all these gifts and she doesn't even send a Birthday Card. Well, I guess you need to look at the relationship between you (not what your other girlfirends think), and whether or not it matters. Maybe you get something else of value from this friend (she gives you good advice, she is a good shoulder to cry on, she has contacts that are helpful to you etc etc) and that is why you value the friendship. If you get absolutely nothing from her(and I don't mean in material goods), then maybe you need to question why you are trying so hard to befriend someone who obviously doesn't seem to care very much for you.

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