Is this a midlife crisis or just being fed up?
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Sue C
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 Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 9:58 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd say you've had it w/having to pick up the pieces all the time. Seems like whenever things got tough, you were the one who stood up to the plate & got yourselves out of the situation he somehow got you in. It's about time he's the man in the family & gives you a break this time. You can only be expected to take so much, then that's all she wrote so to speak. You've sure done your fair share of bailing out w/he problems arose. Now let him take over where you've done a fantastic job of fulfilling your duties plus. See how he handles it, but don't you do anything more to "help out". You've sure played a fair game, now see how he handles things. All the best to you, you deserve it...) |
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ashley e
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:00 pm Post subject: |
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| you need to tell him you want birthday and christmas cards and all that. you both should make an effort to fall in love again before you call it quits. after 22 years I can see how things would be more routine than romantic. put some effort into it before you give up. |
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♥§weetiepie♥
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:03 pm Post subject: |
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| 22 years? Sounds to me like you're fed up with his crap. 22 years is a long time to dedicate to someone and if a depleted savings account and dreams of another life somewhere else in greener pastures is all you feel and have. Then you're slowly coming to the realization that you no longer want what this man of yours has to offer. Yep. you still love him, but it's the kind of love to where you don't want to see anything bad happen to him, but you can probably live without him anyway. You need to think long and hard about this one before you make a move but it sounds like you've made your sacrifices. It's time for you now. |
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boxinghelena101
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:05 pm Post subject: |
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| No no, you are fed up. Make him build the savings back up. If you want to make the marriage work, you both need counseling.Good Luck! |
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Fantasy Life
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Sounds like you have been taking care of everyone else except you. Look into a 12 step program CoDA (co-dependent anonymous). They will help you find yourself again. Being single is no day at the park either, but sometimes it is the right decision, but one not to take with out getting help first. |
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Summerly, living life
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:06 pm Post subject: |
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| The phrase is " The grass isn't always greener on the other side"You should ask single women looking for a man and see how easy it is for them to find a fairly good man. If you have a fairly good man then work with him, tell him you need to fall back in love with him and the only way you can do that is for him to participate or this marriage is going to hit the divorce scene. |
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a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.n
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:11 pm Post subject: |
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| Sometimes we Women are considered to be Superwoman, and our Husbands treat us like we have to do everything in the House,Yard,Kids, and take care of him also.But it's my understanding that when you get Married and have Kids, we have to do everything in our Power to make our Marriage be good if not perfect, I am not condoning your Husband for whatever it was he did to you, but if after all this Years, you are thinking that you are fed up with being Married to him, than the one who has to examine her feelings is you, don't be thinking of how you feel now after all has happened, get your backbone up and for the sake of your Kids try to make your Marriage function like it did before. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, Life is too short to be griping about it now.Have a long talk with your Husband and tell him how you are feeling about the Marriage, maybe you two can come to an understanding, and from than on things will be able to get better. I hope it does become true, for the sake of your Children. Good Luck. |
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Betty M
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| Posted: Tue Jun 10, 2008 10:23 pm Post subject: |
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| I'd say you are down right fed up and you have good reason to feel that way. If this man doesn't give you a birthday or Christmas present then what the he*ll did he spend all your savings on???I certainly hope you have learned your lesson about having a joint bank account with your husband. If not, then go out and get your own checking and savings account tomorrow. Have your husband sign over his pay check from his extra job each week and give it to you to deposit it in your own account, where he can't touch it. I'd even go a step farther and have him sign a written agreement that the money he stole from you, was your money that he owes you and he promises to pay you $$$ each and every week until it is paid off. Even though all money are marital assets, if he signs this agreement and if you get a divorce you have a signed agreement that he will pay you this money. Now you have to decide, do you want to take your signed agreement and divorce him or stay with him until he finishes paying off his debt to you and then decide if you want to stay with him or divorce him. Of course after 22 years of marriage you might be able to get alimony and that would help to pay back the money he stole.You might want to consider seeing a lawyer, tell him what has happen and ask him where you would stand financially if you divorced him. Some times just knowing all the facts can help you think more clearly. You might also want to see a counsellor and help you see past your anger, so you can make the right decision for your future. |
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