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Chemikal Warfare
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 Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 2:23 pm Post subject: What would you do about GF's birthday? |
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| OK. I have been dating this girl for about 3 years now and it's soon to be her 20th birthday. The thing is I am low on money this year around. I had a bad run with money. Now not that I actually counted, but I estimate that during our relationship I have bought her 25+ out of nowhere gifts, like stuffed animals and such (I actually have one for her right now, a Ty Polar Bear) and I have gotten her a present or two every birthday, Christmas and Valentines Day that has past. Yet during our whole relationship she has only gotten me a Christmas Present one year, never a birthday gift or any other sort of gift. I mean I understand about financial situations and she has had some in the past, but should I feel bad if I can't get her something this year like I'd like? She is making a big deal about being 20 and knows I'm low on money, but keeps building it up to be something so huge and making me feel worse about not being able to get her something real nice. What should I do?I know if I don't get her anything she's going to say that it's OK, but then she'll ignore me or treat me as if I insulted her badly or just got over a fight with her. She's done it before. |
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Sara ♥
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| Posted: Thu Jun 05, 2008 2:35 pm Post subject: |
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| It's good for me to know that I'm not the only one in a situation like this!!! I've been in a relationship for 2 years now and I am exactly like you with always buying the presents, and then my boyfriend has only bought me gifts on X-mas and that's it. I like how you look at it that its just a financial problem. B/c I thought it was because my boyfriend just doesnt care even though he says it's because he doesn't have a job. Now he's turning 22 in 7 days and I don't know if I should bother getting him anything b/c I don't have tons of money to spend & I know he's not going to get me anything for my bday.But to answer your question, you've always given her gifts. It's okay if you don't have enough money. Instead, ask her if she wants to go to the movies or something. Cook her her favorite dinner (before the movies so you don't have to pay for snacks, haha.) Or tell her that you will give her gift later on if it's that important to you. Just don't end up not doing anything at all, that always got me so P*ssed off. It's the thought that matters, you don't need to go over board, do something out of the ordinary to show her you care. |
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♥~ i love the jonas bro
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| Posted: Fri Jun 06, 2008 11:29 am Post subject: |
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| Okay I think she is just so used to you getting her nice things that your spoiling her. Now its getting to her head........shes so used to it that she would do anything to get you to get her something. Thats really mean of her because it seems like you really care about her and shes just like whatever i said i love u now get over it. I think that you deserve better than her. |
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EZMZ
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| Posted: Thu Jun 12, 2008 9:14 pm Post subject: |
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| Try to find just the 'right' birthday card-----even if you have to make it yourself------add a personal note to let her know how glad you are to be able to share in the joy of her 20th Birthday.------Kinda make a big deal out of the celebration and make her feel special. If she cannot understand you are in a financial slump now then you probably don't need her anyway. If she cares for you and not just what she can get out of you she should be able to understand. |
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