How to I politely decline my mother in law inviting herself?
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Dazie
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 Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:25 pm Post subject: |
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| yah im in agreement w/ some of the others of having your husband talk to his mother, rather than you doing it, maybe that way it will take anything she has against you off the block and your husband can deal with his mom. but i guess when you get married you marry the entire family, so she wants to be a part of what is going on, but i can totally understand you not wanting her at every event. |
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M Kwan
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:37 pm Post subject: |
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| It's not up to you!Your husband better stand up like a man, and let his mother know your place is not her home and she needs to respect or she's not invited over ever.There is no reason for you to look like the bad person in all this, and your husband needs to understand that. Otherwise he needs to move back in with mommy, if he wants her running his life. Lets see how fast he comes back after one night.Goodluck! |
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undir
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:41 pm Post subject: |
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| She needs to be told that there are times when you want to dedicate your time to your side of the family. She needs to be made aware of the fact that you would prefer her staying out of events that are meant for your side of the family. I think it is best if your husband tells her this rather than you. It's his mother and it's usually best if each of you deals with your own parents when problems like this arise, rather than you dealing with in-laws.Your mother-in-law probably feels left out or wants to spend more time with you and your husband. Maybe you could dedicate some time to her or your husband's side of the family, so that she won't feel as much need to intrude on other occasions.Good luck! |
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Stacey W
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 3:56 pm Post subject: |
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| Ok your grandfathers birthday I can see you getting upset about her showing up.....I mean he's your grandfather. But as for the housewarming/b-day party I don't see why she wouldn't have been at the house warming.You have to sit her down and just tell her that her habit of cleaning the house and such has to stop. |
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Sophiesmama
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| Posted: Tue Jun 24, 2008 4:31 pm Post subject: |
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| this in not a woman who you can deal with politely, and you need your husband's support on this, he should be the one to take her aside and tell her that her behavior is not acceptable and explain when she can and when she cannot come over-Good Luck!!! |
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