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Kirby
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 Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:22 am Post subject: Bridal shower gift question? |
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| I'm going to a bridal shower/bachelorette party this weekend for a friend of mine. The host said not to bring any gifts- just bring wine, and whatever wine was left over, the bride could take home. I feel guilty that she won't be getting gifts for her shower. Should I buy a gift certificate or send one to her over email (Victoria's Secret or something...)- or should I just do as the host says? I don't want any other guests to feel weird that they didn't give her a gift- I just think she deserves something nice. What do you think? |
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chickey_soup
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:27 am Post subject: |
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| Do as the host says. Send her a gift separately. |
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MelZ
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:28 am Post subject: |
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| I would feel weird not bringing a gift to a shower too. I mean, what's the point in having a shower then? You should call the host and ask her one more time if you shouldn't bring a gift. Then ask her why, was it her decision or the brides. If it was her decision, I would go ahead and send a gift to the bride's house. If it was the bride's decision, I might still give her something, but I wouldn't feel horrible if I didn't. |
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Applejax
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:28 am Post subject: |
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| There is probably a reason the host said no gifts...you may want to find out why. As well, I'm sure the 'something nice' you think she deserves will be in abundance once she gets all her wedding gifts. If you are particularly close to the bride and want to give her something, give it to her either before or after that shower. I think it's probably just the bride or the host's way of acknowledging the fact that it is very costly for guests to give a bridal shower, engagement and wedding gift and value the gift of your company rather than a bunch of gifts. |
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Special K
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:28 am Post subject: |
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| You could give it to her privately. That would be nice. Maybe even a spa gift, mani pedi. |
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Decoy Duck
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:29 am Post subject: |
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| It is customary for the bride to be to receive personal gifts at her wedding shower. Since the hostes requested no gifts, call her on the phone and ask what the reason may be. Maybe the hostess has arranged all the gifts during the shower... as in a theme. |
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lola
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:29 am Post subject: |
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| i would buy a gift but leave it in the car. attend the shower with what she requested, the wine and if you see that other people brought her gifts then you can go to the car and grab yours. but i would definetely buy one just in case. and you can always give it to her at a later time. |
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Dana D
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:29 am Post subject: |
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| Are you friendly with any other guests & could ask them? I think it's kind of strange too considering the whole purpose of a bridal shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts. |
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missmaggie
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:31 am Post subject: |
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| i gift crtificate is a great idea!i agree with you also: she does deserve something other than bottles of wine....i think you should put the gift card (any lingerie shop is great!) in a little envelope along with a card attached to the bottle.that way, it is not so obvious, and you wont make the other guests feel awkward if thy havent gotten her anything either....also, you could connect with ohter guests that you know will be coming to her bridal shower, and all of you could pitch in to buy her something. that way, its from all of you.... |
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B2B 6-27-09
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:31 am Post subject: |
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| I'd give her a bottle of wine and a gift like the gift card or something! |
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ashley nicole
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:32 am Post subject: |
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| How close are you to this friend? IF it was a best friend i might give her a present, off to the side, I wouldnt' want to make the other guest feel bad. The host did say no gifts, hopefully this is something the host & the bride to be went over together, so there is no dissapointment to her when her party comes & she has no gifts... |
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mlt
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:40 am Post subject: |
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| do what the host says and still get her a gift and if there is time at the shower take her aside and give her the other gift!! |
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○•○•Cassie•○â
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 7:47 am Post subject: |
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| I would get a gift certificate and put it in a card. She most likely won't open the cards at the shower if there are no gifts so you can still get her a present and not make anyone else feel bad for not bringing something extra. Or if she's real into wine then how about one of those wine of the month clubs? You can bring a bottle and then a voucher showing she will get another bottle every month for a year. |
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angeldust_599
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 8:27 am Post subject: |
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| could it just be possible she wanted a get together without her guests feeling like they need to bring gifts? it would be nice to see a bride not so caught up in gimme gimme gimme cuz I'm getting married. were you invited to the wedding? if so then you will be giving a wedding gift so I wouldnt worry about it. if not then maybe she felt it was rude to expect gifts from people not invited to the wedding. I would just bring wine and then give a gift/send a gift for the wedding. |
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Katherine B
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| Posted: Fri Jun 27, 2008 9:10 pm Post subject: |
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| Maybe the host knows the bride is a wine-o and instead of a wine shower they are calling it a bridal shower instead. Just a thought. |
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