What is the most tasteful way to ask for monetary gifts instead of material gifts for our wedding?
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buggzzy
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 Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:24 pm Post subject: |
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| I think asking it in ANY way would be tacky...this is my 2nd my soon to be husbands first and i am only thinking we will be getting gifts from his side...Why should my side and in your case either sides be expected to give you another gift when I'm sure if they went to ur last they are coming to this one...just set up a SMALL gift thing at a store like walmart...of what u want...if not be happy u are getting something that u have to take back instead of nothing at all |
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Irish Amber
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:25 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't register. If someone asks where you are registered, just say politely "We're not, thank you." Whatever you do, do not have a shower and just have a wishing well at the reception. You may get some presents you don't want anyway but no harm in that. |
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Emanon
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:27 pm Post subject: |
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| There is absolutely no tasteful way to ask for money. Do what I did and put "NO GIFTS PLEASE" on the invitation. Do not expect anything and you will not be disappointed. |
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Soon2BMrs.Lee
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:52 pm Post subject: |
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| There is no tasteful way to ask for money unless its for charity. Use word of mouth by relatives, bridal party and friends...hope it will get around. |
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oy vey
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:57 pm Post subject: |
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| You don't. You do not ask for money or gifts. Period. |
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Cupcake's Princess
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 1:59 pm Post subject: |
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| Just sell tickets to the wedding. It's more straightforward. (Sheesh!) |
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iloveweddings
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 3:01 pm Post subject: |
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| Wow! I urge you to look up all the questions like this that have been asked and answered! There is at LEAST one a week.So, anyway.....here goes....You cannot ASK for anything especially on the invitation. You are so lucky to have everything you want, but you still cannot do it. An invitation (of any kind) is no place to make mention of gifts.How to get around it? Simply DO NOT register anywhere. When your guests see that you are not registered, they will (hopefully) give you a card with cash. Period. End of story.However, be warned that some still do like to bring gifts. Please accept them graciously. If it means returning them...so be it. |
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itsalwaysthequietone
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 3:02 pm Post subject: |
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| Don't know if this will help, but we are also asking for money, through our honeymoon registry. Not only did we spread the word among close family and friends, on the website we put the link for Target, the link for Bed Bath, and then a link for the honeymoon. We explained why we were doing this sort of registry, as well as how it works (we have some older guests that may not understand). It was, I hope, a tasteful way of putting the emphasis on what we really want. |
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RachelinKC
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 4:06 pm Post subject: |
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| Asking for money is not a “new” idea by any means, and recent bridal surveys and forums show that 60% of couples are now doing so. Enquiries for our Wishing Wells and how they work, have tripled so far this year. The secret of course, is to find a tasteful way of “asking” which pleases most and will compliment the elegant surroundings you both have worked hard to create at your reception.The concept and process is quite simple. A brief note is sent out with the wedding invitations, Below are some wording ideas which you can use on your invitations.Invitation Script 1Friends, as you are aware we already have most items needed to 'set up house'. This is the reason for us choosing a wedding wishing well. At the reception there will be a wishing well in which we would love to receive your greeting card and contribution. This will be a great way for us to pool together and buy ourselves something quite luxurious, or to make our honeymoon even better.Invitation Script 2To support us on our special day you may wish to follow with tradition and bring a gift. Or alternatively you may like to help us make our honeymoon a little more special. For this reason we have chosen a wedding wishing well. The wishing well will be at the reception where we can receive your best wishes and contribution. Invitation Script 3They have their dishes and towels for two They have pots and pans and oven mitts too So what do you get for the Bride & Groom Whose house is setup in every room? Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too But you can not register for carpet and glue. A well that holds wishes is the way to go So lets make it easy for all that know. An envelope will be provided for those who have room, To give a monetary wish to the Bride and GroomA wishing well will be on display at the reception hall To attach your wishes, for the couple, with love from all.Invitation Script 4Because at first we lived in sin We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin A gift from you would be swell But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!Invitation Script 5More than just kisses so far we've shared,Our home has been made with Love and Care,Most things we need we've already got, And in our home we can't fit a lot!A wishing well we thought would be great,(But only if you wish to participate),A gift of money is placed in the well,Then make a wish .... but shhh don't tell!Once we've replaced the old with the new,We can look back and say it was thanks to you!And in return for your kindness, we're sure That one day soon you will get what you wished for.Invitation Script 6Soon you will hear our wedding bell,As Friends and family wish us well.Our household thoughts are not brand new,We have twice the things we need for two.Since we have our share of dishes and bedding,We're having instead a wishing well wedding.But more important we ask of you,your prayers of love and blessings too!Invitation Script 7This wishing well is here today for family and friends. Take anenvelope, make a wish and please drop it in. As it falls into thewell your wish, for the couple, will come true. A token for thecouple, to help them begin, will be welcomed, too. Please take thetime to make a wish before the day is through.Invitation Script 8Now we are to be Mr & Mrs We don't need a wedding list of dishes we have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves We require a house for which we have to save. If you would like to give us a gift, A cheque or vouchers would give us a lift We like to think of it as our 'Wishing Well'Which will be filled with your love, we can tell.Invitation Script 9Our home is quite complete now, we've been together long, so please consider our request and do not take us wrong. A delicate request it is, we hope you understand. Please play along as it will give our married life a hand.The tradition of the wishing well is one that's known by all. Go to the well, toss in a coin and as the coin does fall, Make a wish upon that coin and careful as you do. Cause as the well's tradition goes your wishes will come true.So on this special day of ours, the day that we'll be wed. Don't hunt for special gifts but give money in it's stead. And as you drop the envelope with money great and small, Remember, make your wish as you watch your money fall.Invitation Script 10"We've been together a few years now; we have pots and pans and linen and towels; we have glasses and toasters, really quite a few; so instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you; if it doesn't offend and it won't send you running; what we would really appreciate is quite simply money; we know choosing gifts can be such a pain; and this way there is no chance of bringing the same."What do you think?Invitation Script 11"If you were thinking of giving a gift, to help us on our way.A gift of cash towards our house, would really make our day.However, if you prefer to purchase a gift, feel free to surprise us in your own way."Invitation Script 12"We really would appreciate a little money of our own, instead of a little gift for our new home!"We know you want to find something nice But it's such a hassle to find the right price So come and enjoy the day all sunny We really would appreciate a little money.Invitation Script 13To save you looking, shopping or buying. Here is an idea, we hope you like trying. Come to our wedding, to wish us both well. And bring this small sack, to throw in our wishing well. Fill it with paper all colours will do, gold is our favourite but silver will do. Now that we have saved you, all of that fuss. We hope you will come, and celebrate with us. |
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Engaro
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| Posted: Wed Jul 02, 2008 11:48 pm Post subject: |
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| You could say "Best wishes only" on the invite. It just means no gifts, but if someone really wants to get you a gift they'll either write you a cheque or buy you something anyway. |
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