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Serena
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 Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:33 am Post subject: Is it really good wedding etiquette to provide money and a gift? |
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| My mother was telling me the other day that you are supposed to give a check that covers your dinner and a gift for a wedding. I've been told that to be safe we should give $100 if you don't know how much the dinner is to cost. I've never heard this before. At our wedding, we didn't get anything like this. The wedding is actually for one of our groomsmen for our wedding and he gave my husband a flask for a wedding gift. His wedding is today. We've bought them about $100 in gifts...do we also need to bring a check? |
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Lauren
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:38 am Post subject: |
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| No I would think the gifts would be fine and nice. |
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miss America
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:38 am Post subject: |
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| haha! if this was the case i think EVERYONES guest list would be a lot higher! the gift is all you need to bring. have fun! |
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dottielasvegas
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:38 am Post subject: |
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| No, only money or a gift, not both..... |
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rebecca j
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:39 am Post subject: |
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| i would do one or the other a gift if you have one or a check if you can't think of anything to bring. it all depends on the wedding party too. but i think your ok w/ just the gifts |
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phrogster1
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:39 am Post subject: |
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| No, the gift is plenty. You are invited guests to their wedding, you don't have to pay to attend! |
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samira
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:41 am Post subject: |
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| No, I wouldn't. The $100 in gifts are very genrous... but Your mother is right as far as etiquette goes. You are supposed to give a shower gift at the shower and then at the wedding you should give a check (OR the cost of your gift-not both) should at least cover your dinner. |
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notyou311
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:42 am Post subject: |
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| No. A gift is enough. Your mother is wrong. A guest does not pay for the dinner. |
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riyad
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:42 am Post subject: |
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| Good, if by willingly, not by pressure. |
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glas kat
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 10:44 am Post subject: |
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| No way. Best bet, return the same courtesy he gave you. Bring one gift at the shower, or at the wedding. Not both. The dinner is the couples' gift to you. Enjoy. |
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Sunny
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 12:23 pm Post subject: |
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| when i was a bride i personally appreciated getting money rather than gifts. so then i could use the money to put toward our wedding expenses. if i were you, just give the $100 to cover your own plates, but not an additional gift on top of that. |
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Peachy Keen, Jelly Bean
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 9:21 pm Post subject: |
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| Well, your mother was sort of right about that. The gift you give the couple at a wedding should cover the cost of your dinner at the reception according to proper etiquette. This little "guideline" isn't very well-known. However, with the economy and gas prices the way they are these days, it is perfectly acceptable to give the gift that can be afforded. If you can only afford a $20 gift, that's fine. If you're able to afford a $100 gift, that's fine too. The couple shouldn't be expecting extravagant gifts anyway. Give what you can is the new rule of thumb! |
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