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Erin
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 Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 8:58 am Post subject: My friend's father just passed away...? |
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| My friend Kim, I went to high school with her, her father just passed away three weeks ago of cancer. Ever since she has been sad and she won't talk to anyone. She gives you "one-word-answers". I totally get it. Someone she loved so much just died of and illness, I get. I feel so bad for her. I have given her and her family cards, flowers, gift cards, but I don't know what else to give them. Does anyone have an idea of what to give her and her family? Just to let you know they will like whatever you give them, they are very nice people. I just want an idea because I want to make it extra special. Money doesn't matter if the gift is expensive it won't matter I've got the money to spend on them. Thanks a bunch!Gosh the first three answers are great! Thanks so much! |
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butterfly
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:07 am Post subject: |
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| Just be there for them by listening to them talk about the father and help out with errands and chores , this will be very much appreciated . Always be available for them. They have my sympathys. |
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LadyTazzy
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:08 am Post subject: |
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| Beyond the money....your friendship and support is most important now. Go over and spend time with Kim and her family. Let them know you are there for them. Kim sounds like she needs a friend right now. |
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Kasside K
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:08 am Post subject: |
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| Well you can't push her to go back to normal. What she has gone through is horrible. So probably the best thing you can do for her is let her know that you are there. Make her feel like she can spill all her feelings out to you. Then eventually she will be ready to talk about it, maybe you should mention to her to get a counselor that she can talk to about it. Money isn't everything, what really matters is love. |
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e-mailing chick
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:09 am Post subject: |
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| All you need to give them is your love and let them know that you are there for them. No gifts or anything will say as much as your love. Sorry, that this happen to her. I wish the family love. |
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NessA
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:09 am Post subject: |
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| dont shower them with gifts. because that makes u seem like ur showing them pitty, which is the LAST thing that people want in the time of something like that. just give urself, ur support and just be there for her. let her know she can talk to u when shes ready. but please. no more gifts =] good luck |
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gotta love megan
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:11 am Post subject: |
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| Just give them your time and love right now. And if you really want to give them a solid gift find pictures of her dad and make a really nice scrapbook of pictures of him with the family. |
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Jenny J
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:15 am Post subject: |
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| invite your friends to a picnic, fresh air is wonderfull |
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 9:16 am Post subject: |
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| The best thing you can give them right now is love and support. If you are there for them and show that you understand and care they will appreciate that much more than a material gift |
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bumbaraas
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| Posted: Sun Jul 13, 2008 10:33 am Post subject: |
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| I am soo sorry for your friend.My auntie,as well,died not a month ago from BRAIN CANCER..stage four.which's basically a death sentence.As for your friend,she's turning inward due to such a tragic loss in her life...y'know it's always...momma's boy & daddy's little girl.So this's how she's seeing it...my daddy is dead!What am I gonna do?She is going inside of herself where she understands things better.Example....Her whole life has been built around her family,who's always been there for her.But now that guarantee is not as secure as it used to be for her entire life,y'know what I mean? Also,everybody is diff'rent in the ways that they grieve.Some people wanna be left alone,some people wanna be around other people when something tragic like that happens.But one thing is for sure....KEEP DOING WHAT YOU'RE DOING FOR HER.Don't let her escape into herself too far,'cause once she does,it'll be really hard to get her outta that deep depression...depending on how far down she goes.The last thing you want to do as a friend is let her sink into a depressed state of mind,or let her life spin into a downward spiral.And like you said...you want to do something for her and her family,the BEST thing YOU can do is what you've already BEEN doing.And that is:Be there for your friend..on a constant.ALWAYS,never faltering..and eventually your friend will recognize this and she'll be grateful that she had a real good friend by her side through her hard ordeal. |
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