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Who Ville
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:26 pm Post subject: My best friend's sister died.?

One of my friends from my childhood who I still hang out with's sister died. I don't talk to my friend (Carolyn) but her sister was like a wackjob. I liked her and all but she was very weird. She married a very odd man, had like 4 kids, traveled around towns, got drunk at the age of 16 and was like very eh. Did not have the best rank of life. She was very different. My friend Carolyn has been greiving since her sister had a very rare disease and nobody knew about it. But she like moved around and I dunno. Kinda not the best influence and she was just weird. My friends all are not sure on going to the funeral or not. I called her mother and all and sent gifts and chocolates and flowers but we all dont feel it's right to go to the funeral. I am thinking of lying and saying I had to do something very important but I can't lie. I don't see her often but I don't think I should go. How can I break it to her? I can't stop feeling guilty. The funeral is in 2 days.Okay my sister asked this. I have no idea what is going on but she says that her sister wasn't nice to her or her friends.

Emily-Marie M
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:30 pm Post subject:

Some times lying is okay if you dont want to hurt some ones feelings. Its called a little white lie

ROBERT.
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:30 pm Post subject:

just drop in pay your respects and leave.

* el lexis *
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:31 pm Post subject:

If you don't want to go to the funeral (sometimes it just makes people uncomfortable) Send her family some flowers from your family or from you as a gesture or make a donation in her name I'm sure they would appreciate anything.. !

crazyfool23
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:32 pm Post subject:

don't go

just me
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:33 pm Post subject:

if carolyn is your friend, like you claim, go out of respect and support for her and the rest of the family.

Marie
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:33 pm Post subject:

If she is or was your friend, what ever, I don't understand if she still is or isn't!!! What's gona happen if the day comes that the both of you are real close, how you gona feel then. I would go why lie, remember what goes around comes around!!!

ririupup
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:34 pm Post subject:

easy question , just go..........

jaxbus3000
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:36 pm Post subject:

I was in this same situation once. What I did was to spend some time with my friend before the funeral, and just told her how sorry I was that her brother died, and of course offered my help and sympathy, but I also told her that funerals made me feel to bad and that I just could not stand to go. She was very understanding in that and appreciated me spending quality time with her. I think she would understand.

Brian M
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:36 pm Post subject:

My wife just went through the same situation where her friend's sister commited suicide. The sister was a drug addict and was a burden on the family but nonetheless my wife's friend was very upset. My wife decided to go to the wake and funeral, not because she was fond of the deceased but to show support for her friend and be there for her in her time of grief.If this girl is really your friend you should support her. How her sister lived her life is not what's important, what matters is that your friend is hurting right now and needs her friends to help her get through this time.

Harry
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:37 pm Post subject:

You would be going to the funeral because you are showing respect for your friend (the sister who is living), not because you were so close to her sister (the one who died).I am going to give you some advice from someone who has been around for a while: Your friend and her family will remember forever if you come or don't come to the funeral. And if you don't come, the friendship will suffer. If you are not close friends with this girl, and just casual friends, then I would not worry about it. However, if you are close friends, be prepared for the consequences if you fail to show up and show your respects.

Shelby[small town kinda g
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Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:39 pm Post subject:

why wouldn't you go to the funeral. that's completely rude.omg. once i went to a funeral of my mom's bf's step dad. i had never even met his mom OR is step dad. but i went out of respect of the people who i had known who had know him.it's what people do, it's kind.but whatever lie if you want, it's not good to lie though

♥jen♥
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 11, 2008 3:42 pm Post subject:

oh my gosh, you need to support your friend( and im sorry to say but stop thinking about yourself). her sister just dies and all your worrying about is that she wasnt the best influence on your friend?(i no its a point but still). what you can do is go to the funeral and support your friend. she needs somone to support and love her, and that could be you.

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