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I think it's tacky to have a second baby shower, but was invited to one. Should I go?

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saraloo@ymail.com
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:27 pm Post subject: I think it's tacky to have a second baby shower, but was invited to one. Should I go?

Not only did I go to the first baby shower, but I gave a GREAT gift! Now I got an invitation to a second shower for the second baby. She got pregnant when the first was less than a year old. They ARE opposite sex. I know everyone is going to say that we should "celebrate every baby" and I'm more than willing to do that, but the bottom of the invitation listed a whole bunch of high value items (AND ALL general baby items, NOT girl things) and I think it was just a tacky attempt to get more gifts! I'd not even question it if it was just a big party to celebrate the upcoming baby, but a shower is a party that is meant to "shower" someone with gifts. Should I go or skip it as a protest of the tackiness?

BLIND SMILE DOG
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:29 pm Post subject:

Gab it while you can Kid.

Victor
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:29 pm Post subject:

Do whatever you want.

Stevie xo
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:30 pm Post subject:

Well its tricky because she didn't get pregnant on purpouse just top get gifts, I would just buy cheap presents, some outfits or other things, no need to give two HUGE gifts and to be passive agressive against the general baby items they asked for I would give ONLY gender specific gifts for this baby so they couldnt be used on both but thats just me

locachica1357
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject:

If you feel that the woman having the baby is deliberatly trying to get more gifts out of her friends, and/or if she is not a very close friend of yours, then I would send a "congratulations on your pregnancy" card and leave it at that. Otherwise, go to the shower and bring a small gift (not necessarily one listed on the bottom). Thats what I would do!

Jennifer
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject:

I think a second baby shower is fine due to the opposite sex issue, but she sounds like she is being selfish. Dodge the shower, or just show up with some baby girl clothes. Don't break the bank on this one.

cancerking
Yahoo User

Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject:

Well, we had FOUR showers for our first child. All at random, all by different folks. Believe me, I'm glad we did. Don't ever sell short when a baby is the reason. Hell, you should throw another shower for them.

eddygordo19
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:31 pm Post subject:

Make up an excuse and skip it. Life is too busy to waste time at personal fund raisers.

kincaid1
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:36 pm Post subject:

I personally think someone should only have one shower and that's it. Especially when they are so close together. I'm sure she has many yellow, green or white outfits the other one can wear if it's a boy. I would not go, but many people are into those kinds of things. I think she's milking it to get more gifts. What more could she need? She's got everything for the first one.

Jasmine
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:40 pm Post subject:

If you don't go, your friend will feel bad. Maybe just go but don't buy an expensive gift. Just bring something and leave the expensive items for the relatives that want to throw the party.

cheryshery323
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:40 pm Post subject:

It depends whether this mother to be is close to you or not. Would she really care if you weren't there? If you want to be kind, go and give her the lowest priced item on her list and a nice card. She won't treat you according to the price of your gift if she's a decent person. Another option is to say you already have other engagements that day.

peaches
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:45 pm Post subject:

just go and celebrate the baby no one says you HAVE to get a big gift or any gif at all to go. It's just wishful thinking

dottielasvegas
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 5:52 pm Post subject:

No you should not go to the 2nd shower.

Chris
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 6:19 pm Post subject:

I think one baby shower is enough, trying to get free stuff and more gifts has gotten way out of hand.

Jennifer
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Posted: Fri Jul 18, 2008 8:51 pm Post subject:

I would go and support my friend, and I would give her a small, thoughtful gift, like maybe a package of diapers. You are not obligated to fully outfit someone's child, but showing support for your friends when they have a baby is always appropriate.

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