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dominiloki
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| you guys should try going to a marriage counselor, just for the sake of the kids..if that does not work, "go"make sure that the kids will be stable environment though. |
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♥i h8 nicknames♥
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it sounds like you are under a great deal of stress. the way you talk about the guy, he sounds....like a jerk. honestly. ask yourself...am i still in love with him???once you have that answer...if its a yes..sit him down. and have a completely serious talk with him about how you are feeling. maybe all he needs is a wake up call. he may not realize that he is making you feel this way.if the answer is no...sit him down anyway and explain to him the way he has been treating you. and tell him that u honestly think that you may not want to be with him anymore.it helps to just telll the truth. no matter what. i hope everything works out the way it shouldgood luck!! |
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lovely1
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| Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 9:39 am Post subject: |
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| Honestly this is a decision that is totally up to you. Unfortunately people change and go through things. All I have to say is love yourself, and make sure that whatever decision you decide is best for you and your children. You both might just need some space.Many people base their decisions on the kids, but if you're unhappy then it will show and they can still be negetively effected by that. |
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mscherpenberg
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| Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 9:40 am Post subject: |
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| I'd talk to a councilor and get some kind of help for this relationship. Not my business but you say you have two kids together and are not married? You didn't call him a fiance. Are you planning to get married at any point? I think you need to ask yourself some questions about where your relationship is heading. I do think you are focusing on the wrong things though. You are worried about not going on dates and not getting gifts on your birthday or mothers day but yet you put no focus on your children in this. What about their needs? Is leaving this guy who is their dad in their best interest? Talk to a councilor and get your priorities straight and then get some kind of relationship counciling for both of you. If you are staying together you really ought to go all the way and get married for the sake of your kids. If not, you need to end it. Before you do though, you need to figure out how this will affect your kids and how you are going to tackle that. That should be your first priority and focus. |
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elgil
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| Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 9:41 am Post subject: |
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| If you don't think you deserve better and could get it, you have low self esteem. It is your problem, not his. He is happy the way it is. |
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karen m
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| Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 9:42 am Post subject: |
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| you need to sit down with him and tell him straight- I have tried to get you to go places and do things with me and you wont. I feel like you dont care about me anymore and I am unhappy. If things dont change (and give a dead line- 3 months, 6 months) I am leaving.Tell him what will happen when you leave- there will be no coming back, you will be paying child support If he doesnt straighten up after that, he really doesnt care and wants it to be over |
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Black Beauty
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| Posted: Fri Jul 25, 2008 9:53 am Post subject: |
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| You need to sit him down and really explain how all of this is making you feel. Lay everything on the table. Then you should spend less time dwelling on him. Do some you time. Hand out with your girl friends. I agree with Mariah. It seems like you lost your self in him. When ever you loose yourself in a man you loose your own personality and just become the wife or the girlfriend instead of the strong person her originally fell in love with. Be you again. if you know what i mean. Then maybe he will turn around. If not you need to make a decision on what makes you happy and if he will be apart of that. Men like strong women not door mats. |
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