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THINKING BIG
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 Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 12:38 pm Post subject: Why should women usually/need to get treated better than men in dating ? |
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| Why should women usually/need to get treated better than men in dating ? I mean there chivalry-[courteous behavior, especially that of men towards women] but women dont have to do equal treatment toward men or they do less than want is expected men do. Why dont more women take there men out and pay for them as much as men usually do? Some women expect the man to pay all of the dates, and most men do. The problem is men go along wit this, they usually think want can I buy her to MAKE her like me. They do stupid things( without the women reciprocating back) like expensive dinner on the first date, flower, gifts, out of the box favors, paying for everything, let women verbally and physically abuse him without leaving her, free vacations. Men If really want to know if there girlfriend like them 4real, respect her but dont spoil her, demand to be treated with the same respect u give her. Let her fall in luv with u not want u can do 4 her financially. What do yall think about this ?Women have want they didnt have back in the day opportunities to make money. Men shouldnt care if she is paid less than him. She doesnt have take him to a expensive spot, just reciprocate... please. Men if ya women wants respect have her earn it just like u have to earn hers. Also all of this doesnt apply to every man and women just most. Look forward to honest opinionsHey Alice "Also all of this doesnt apply to every man and women just most." Im not saying all women or men apply. HELLO who is stereotyping just being real.So it comes down to the man paying for sex basiclly ? Isnt this prostitution ?Also I never said women should be paid less than men. Im just saying if she is making less , that doesnt/ shouldnt mean see shouldnt take and pay for men on dates. It doesnt have to be expensive just reciprocate. |
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Sessy R
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 12:46 pm Post subject: |
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| I agree with what you said about men most of the time paying for the dates. I never had a guy pay for anything I did to be honest. For two reasons.. 1. he is not obligated to do so and 2. I like to pay for my own expenses.But I think you saying that letting women get paid less for gender is a little stupid and selfish. If she is better and works a lot of hour and earns it what gives anyone the right to take away what that person earned just for gender.Now your much clearer! That's true. But I am not sure how we would know about a person's wages, ya know. When I go on a date I have never asked how much money the guy made that wouldn't even matter. But I agree that you shouldn't have to pay for someone if they get paid less.That's my opinion. Hope I helped. |
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Tom B
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 12:48 pm Post subject: |
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| because your trying to get some if you play nice they play nice |
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alicethetitan
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 12:56 pm Post subject: |
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There definitely is chivalry embedded in our culture, but what a woman does back depends on what kind of person she is. My bf is ridiculously romantic and chivalrous.  He gives me gifts and poetry, compliments me, buys my movie tickets and dinners, and holds the door for me all the time. He's just that kind of person. But he does this because not only does he love me to death, but also I love him and I treat him with the utmost respect and love. I also give him gifts and poetry and compliment him all the time, and I don't buy my own things when we're out together just because he won't let me!  I'm the kind of woman who doesn't take advantage of the people I date, but reciprocates the love and respect they give me. You're putting a stereotype on women. If you're having a problem like you're describing with a woman, don't date her! Even if a hint of chivalry is expected, everyone deserves respect, regardless of their genders, and you shouldn't stay with a woman who doesn't reciprocate your respect for her just because you think that all women are heartless brats. I'm not trying to be rude, but I'm sure you get offended when men are stereotyped incorrectly. Good luck to you, and I hoped I helped. |
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tigersalamander2006
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 1:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Because she has the vagina and if the man wants to "get any" then he had better impress her/makeher happy. Just logical sense. |
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corra
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 1:20 pm Post subject: |
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| I don't believe women should be paid less for the same job. As for what else you say I agree. I believe in manners not so much chivalry. (although I would be lying if I said I didn't like a bit of chivalry) But I would not like the relationship you describe and don't think it's healthy. I don't need the frills. I want to be called on it if I'm being a brat. And I don't get a lot out of material things. I'm pretty low maintenance. Respect and love are what I value. Who can respect a girl who wants gifts and money over a real relationship and who can respect a guy who just gives and gives when it is not appreciated. On a date I want to pay my own way. Having said all that, I've been told by more than one person that my personality is more like a guy than a girl. lol |
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Vernon C
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 1:32 pm Post subject: |
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| No matter what laws and social mores we obtain, women will always have the upper hand, because if we want it, we gotta pay for it.I know some women who reciprocate, but they are usually older and actually know what the ERA was all about. |
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Mr.HATE
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 3:03 pm Post subject: |
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| Because women in general are manipulaters and users. They think they have a commodity you need between their legs and assume you are willing to do back flips and toss $ at them until they "let you". Best way to handle them is refuse to pay or play their silly games. let them take YOU out and then dump their sorry butts. Also the ph. game, give them a bogus phone # and watch them go crazy for you next time they see you around. |
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Tasha
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| Posted: Sat Jul 26, 2008 3:19 pm Post subject: |
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| The things you have raised as issues all sound like a man who lacks self-esteem. He figures that in order for a woman to like or love him, he must purchase her fancy things and spend money on her to keep her. And this is where a lot of men make their mistakes because they chose good looking superficial women, and expect her to love them for who they are vs. their checking account. Now I ask that you really live up to your name and "THINK BIG" for a second. Look at the whole picture for a second. If YOU don't want to spend a lot of money on a date, then don’t'. Find a nice "mom and pop" owned restaurant that doesn't cost much to dine there on the first date. Afterwards catch a movie and call it a night (or ask her if she's willing to go half on a few drinks if you're not ready to call it a night). Try going miniature golfing next time while on a date, going to the zoo or checking out an outdoor concert where all can see vs. you spending all your paycheck on this girl. In other words, shop around on line and find things that’s fun to do with in your city that doesn’t cost as much to do. Stop coming in here and blaming your judgment in "High Priced Women" on all women. There are women who go half on a bill, if not foot the whole thing one night, and her husband/boyfriend take care of the next bill the next night (this is what my friend and I do) The reason why YOU have these problems with these high maintenance women is because those are the type of superficial women you go for. You're probably the type of guy that has the nice car, fancy cloths, and bling bling, all bought in an attempted to catch a woman’s eye, and when you "Sink, line, and Hook" a $1,000 trout you get mad when she takes your money. Stop going for the women who look like her name starts with dollar signs and start paying attention to the more down to earth women. The average looking females that can fix themselves up nice while out the town. Start spending your time with a woman that doesn't have to have the $100 champagne or the expensive jewelry in order to have a good time with you. There are some women out there that would be just happy to have you bring them flowers while eating a dinner you prepared on the beach. You can be romantic with out breaking your wallet. And if you have to break your wallet to be with a woman then that's the wrong woman for you to even waste your time with. Because she is one of those women who're used to men doing things for her and she would expect nothing less from you. A woman that appreciates her man will render the same rewards unto him that he has given to her. But it's up to YOU to find that woman. And you won’t find her until you stop looking for "Miss America" on the float in the parade while letting the entire pageant contestants pass you buy. Instead of looking for a 10, find you a cute 5 or a sexy 8 and get it over with. Most beautiful women are superficial women and expect the expensive things from men. It’s just up to you to make the choice to be her next fool.And it's not about playing games. Because for me personally, if I find out anyone is playing games with me I leave them alone. I'm too old for games. You own no one anything and she owes you nothing in return. |
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