Should I stay or should I go?

Organized Chaos · Yahoo User

So... here it is: I've been going out with my girlfriend for over a year (almost 16 months). To understand the situation I'll explain it all: We were both 16 when we got together, and I had just gotten my license 3 days before I asked her out. Driving- we live a good 35-45 minutes away with most of it on highways. Her parents are somewhat over the top. They immediately told her she would never be allowed to drive to my house because they were afraid that if she got into an accident, then the person who hit her, would rape her (a radical fear; not to say such an event is unheard of in today's world). So... I did the driving... for 16 months through highs and lows at the pump. That's just a piece of the puzzle. I told her I loved her by 13 days... yeah... that was fast. But I meant it and I always have. However- our first fight was on the 7th day. Razz

It hasn't necessarily been stormy as it's been rainy. I was depressed when she met me, and now I'm far from it- something I owe to her greatly. However, in the last 2 months things have gone south. Fights have become more intense, stress more difficult, but we have "weathered" it together nonetheless. However, last week she and I had a very rough day together and while at a baseball game that same day she walked away without a word. I followed but couldn't find her. When she came back she was smiley and normal. I found out a few days later in a 2 hour long phone conversation stretching from 12 AM to 2 AM that she had considered breaking up with me for "a moment." The key word, however, is 'considered.' She said that when she walked away she tried to think of reasons to stay and didn't get past the first reason- because she loved me. She also admitted being a little jealous of my friendship with another girl. For that, I take full responsibility and have thus taken some steps to cut that girl out of my life [which she was not happy about]. And so, the pain of knowing that I almost pushed her to break up with me remained nonetheless. Two days later was my birthday (i was/am 1 Cool

and the worse than the last. It started in the morning when I had told her I wanted to buy her a present- a very unorthodox present, I should add (think lingerie) (of note: we are both still virgins). It infuriated me that she refused to let me buy her the gift. However, once I saw her about an hour later, I forgot all about it and was just happy to have her in my arms. Moving along to later that day. While at my [parents] house we had another problem. I had asked her to play ping-pong with me for a few days in a row (that's not a typo... I really love ping-pong). For Christs' sake- it's my birthday, just humor me! But she flatly refused. Until when I wasn't paying attention. She decided to play the game with my best friend. The main problem here is that I've had many problems with the her and his friendship before. Nothing has ever happened between them, but in the last month I had caught her lying to me about him. Another note is that I was jealous of their friendship about a year before, but I was over it! Anyway- despite my nagging her to play with me she flatly refused, but when HE mentioned it just once... she gladly picked up the paddle [wow that sounds wrong]. I got upset with her and told her. Once again, we spent time to talk it over and worked through it. However, once again, the day would not be complete without more hail. I was driving her home that night after the celebration was over. The original plan was not to leave my house till 10:00, but we changed and left at 9:45. She called her Mom that we were leaving and her mother warned if she was not in the house by 10:30 she would be grounded again (a former punishment that was excruciating). I was not driving her straight home but to a midpoint instead, where I would drop her off and she would drive home from there. I sped the whole way to the mid point and she got home at 10:25. When I called her I complained about her parents and the insanity that comes with always having to be the one driving and the stress her parents cause me. She responded with "Look, if you want out then just go." It silenced me and it has thus sent me on a spiraling self-doubt trip. Should I stay... or should I go? Is the stress too much or is this just another storm to get through to the happy side. We have plans to go to colleges near one another and both share a care for one another... but I feel as if I may have hit a dead end. To be honest to myself and anyone whose read this- I'm leaning on staying with her, but the doubt is still present. Is the stress worth it? Or am I being trigger happy, sort to speak. Someone, please help me. Please.