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Author Message anthony k Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:35 am    Post subject: Please Respond!!!!Okay, My girlfriend and I have been together for just over a year... We manage, because i stress communication. I am perfect in almost everyway. I dont take her for granted, I treat her very well, we go out to eat, dinner, movies, I have even managed to take her to a Play and shopping one time. Her family like me, she says she love me. However, she is not very humble, and kind of takes me for granted. She expects me to wait for her because she is a virgin, to quote her.During the past 2 months, on our anniversary, she had to go on this Louisiana trip for 4 days. Since she had to work the day before she left, i got a gift and brought her dinner. Though she said she will get me somethin when she got back, she didnt get me anything and said she forgot. I began a new job by the time she returned so i couldnt get to go out with her as i wanted. Then she begun a month-long precollege program that is rigorous and requires ardous work. So i could not call her or hardly spend time with her, also because of my work schedule.I still will call her, to at least say hi, but i talk to her mom instead, and she tells me how she is doing.The last day I spoke to my girlfriend, i spoke to her for about 10 minutes, then she battled with me for 5 trying to make me late for work:) I told her i will call her, I love her, bye, and she told me I love you. And I havent heard from her since...Course I called her... but after not being called back at that time, I did not call her and now wait for her call.I have decided that if she doesnt call me by the 11th of August then I should just move on.I'm asking for anyone and everyone's opinion, suggestion, and/or advice on this situation.Like i dont ask her to buy me gifts, i dont do all those things to win her over or get favors in return. And the virgin thing she isnt waiting for marriage. And I'm never to busy to call her, even when i am, i still call because i am willing to make time for her. She has not even once simce then called to say hi, good morning or good night. Its not that im thinking of moving on because i want to be with her but im being taken for granted. And she's not busy at all. Im a very understanding guy and im there when she needs me. When her father past, i was there, when her sister got pregnant and she was blaming herself, i talked to her, when she needed money for a bill, though she was afraid to ask me, i gave her the money( i read her mind), and i am a very patient person... very patient. If she does call, then we will talk about what took place and has happened but its just muy dificil.THANK YOU! Back to top md07 Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:41 am    Post subject: she doesnt love u shes taking u for granted sounds like shes cheating u seem nice and she sounds horrible move on and yeah 11th august is fair Back to top Island Girl Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:42 am    Post subject: anthony... i wouldnt do that to my bf who i love so dearly. i will call him when i say i will. and i wont make him insecure to the point of posting on answers.yahoo.com to ask other people about what to do... obviously you are worried.be up front with your gf. asks her whats up. if she ways she loves you, bravo! if she says, she needs space and is busy... well uh you know what that means... indeed you are very patient. but please draw the line between being patient and people taking advantage of your patience.good luck! Back to top Anonymous Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:43 am    Post subject: It sounds like you are really letting her take advantage of you. Step one is to not do that. Relationships should be equal give and take, otherwise someone will inevitably feel that way. And often the other person doesn't realize how great they have it, because they just get used to that and think that's the way it should be always!If you talk to her again, I recommend bringing that up - it's good to be honest about how you're feeling. Especially if she has no idea.In terms of what to do at this point - it's your call. In your position, I would give her one more call. If that doesn't get a response, then move on, because you shouldn't have to wait around for someone who is clearly not returning the affection. Or you could wait. The good thing about doing that is that maybe she will start to realize what she is missing. The bad thing is that there's no timetable - it could take her a week or realize what she's missing, or it could take her a year. There's no saying. I wouldn't recommend going over the top (like getting her a gift and showing up at her house) to get her attention back. She knows where to find you. So if she's not making the effort, then this is a one-sided relationship for you right now. Back to top Gloria L Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:44 am    Post subject: Sounds like it's over and you both are growing apart. Not sharing the same feelings. Not calling back. No time for each other due to college/work/schedule. If you were married, you would probably adjust for this and would still see each other every night. Doesn't sound like she is being honest with you. She either has somebody else or other interests at this time. I would move on and not work so hard for her unless she did the same for you. It should be 50/50. Back to top Deedee Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:46 am    Post subject: it sounds like you guys are way too busy, but honestly, when i was in middle school- i liked this boy. and i heard this boy led a full life and he was always way too busy to talk or hang out with anyone else, so my best guy friend said " if he likes you, he'll make time for you." he did and i knew that he did like me because he made sure to always include me in his life. i'm in college now and I still find that the people who are truly interested in me go out of their way to spend time with me, especially my boyfriend and I do the same for him and everyone else I love, because they matter to me. Back to top b.scott L Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:46 am    Post subject: You seem like an awesome guy. shes taking you for granted! you dont need her, you could do so much better. break it off and find someone who makes YOU happy ! good luck, go get em! Back to top sexi Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:52 am    Post subject: well if she does not call u just move on cause theres plenty of pretty girls out there 4 u Back to top Britt Yahoo User Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 12:53 am    Post subject: It seems like you have been through alot. And although you call yourself almost perfect you say she isnt humble? I understand you are very good to your girlfriend, and its great you stress communication, but from what ive heard she sounds stressed, and you say she shes not busy at all but she is in a rigorous precollege program? You need to be fair to her, she may not be as giving to you but perhaps she shows her love in other ways. also realize most guys in relationships give more presents and money, It's just more common. Don't get all sad about a present, so when you do speak to her dont bring that up, its not neccessary for your argument. Tell her you feel you are putting more into the relationship than her, and you want to know what she thinks you should work on. Although you feel like you are doing nothing wrong just give her a chance to tell you how she feels. I dont mean to scold you about sum of the things you said, I just want you to be fair to your girlfriend of over a year, you owe it to her. good luck Back to top

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