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Dana ?
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 Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:13 pm Post subject: Am I being wronged by my husband? |
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| We're a young couple.Im 22 and he's 27.We have been together for 6 years.We now have a baby on the way.We got married last year but his mom did not know.He didnt want to let her know for some reason.He works at a school and is a full time student there.He also does club promoting 3 times a week.I only see him once a week and when we're together,he';s on facebook looking at girls' profiles..the ones he meets at the club.He doesnt take me out.He just told me a simple happy birthday and gave me a $100 gift card from oldnavy(I begged for it).He lives with his mom b/c his father is over seas,isnt a U.S citizen nor Permanent resident so he cant work over here anyhow.He helps his mom financially.His mother is very greedy.She wants to buy a house and im guessing her dream is to have her son help her pay her mortgage.She has brainwashed him so badly that he no longer cares for me.He sees and treats me like a stranger.Then his mom turns around and acts like she's angel but she is clandestinely filling up his head.He hangs out with his buddies and his buddies' girlfriends.He leaves me out.I just cant take it anymore.The other day he flashed a $700 check in my face that he got from club promoting.He didnt share a dime.I cook him breakfast when he;s at my house.I treat him very well.I dont think I deserve this.He claimed my mom didnt do a good job raising me.WHy ??because im not as social as he is?Because I rather stay home,pursue my degree and plan my future?He once told me I was autistic and antisocial..that I had to get myself checked out.Meanwhile,he gives his respect to drunk girls from the club.What should I do??Advice Please!! |
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Mrs. Robinson
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| well then maybe IT IS TIME for you to start living a life of your own. He'll either see, hey, im gonna lose somthing good here, or he wont. but ya, per your description, i wouldnt be around. and you a secrete to top it off??? come on. time to s*** or get off the pot. |
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Nice to meet you
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| Like I said the last time you asked this... Leave him. He is disrespecting you and chances are he knows that he is. He is also a mama's boy and that isn't going to change. Don't let love make you irrational here. You need to think about this baby and plan for your future. It sounds like Mr. is planning for a long future with mama. |
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wrathofwonka2002
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:18 pm Post subject: |
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| You should probubly leave him and claim the child support, the guy sounds like a total douche bag anyways. |
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pretty girl
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| the club promoting.. that's something he must have done when you first met him; you either accept it or you don't & since you had a child with him- you obviously accpeted it.personally, I think there's someone else out there for you. it's unfortunate there is a child involved now, but this guy seems like a club head, douche bag.I think you know what you need to do. |
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elizabeth
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| Look, you already asked this question earlier and you got the right answers the first time. If your husband is calling you "autistic" and "anti-social", if he is not living in the same house with you, and if he leaves you out of his social network, DUMP HIM. This guy sounds like a loser and you deserve better. |
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maroh5
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:19 pm Post subject: |
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| You guys are married and don't live together? He with his mother and you cook him breakfast when he is at your house?That is just crazy, you are nothing more than a slave to him. Drop him like a hot potato!!! |
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Tryna-Hyde
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:26 pm Post subject: |
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| this bama is running game on you for real!!! he has time to hang out with his buddies, he has time to go "promote" for the club - (which, honey, i promote for clubs...it doesn't take that long to fling a flyer on someone's windshield!), and has a dysfunctional mother that he caters to at beck and call (yeah...okay) ....can we say drama, boys and girls?he's playing you sweetie. your husband got game. i advise you to discontinue listening to him. i advise you to begin becoming independent of him so when you finally decide to be out - you can do just that.good luck! |
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anon
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:29 pm Post subject: |
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| Go over to his mama's house with your marriage certificate and tell her that he is your husband. Then, you and he need to sit and talk about how he has been treating you. I'd recommend checking out Marriage Savers or Retrouville.As for being autistic and antisocial? So what? You just described a lot of people--including me. And, guess what? I'm married and am in the military.For working, you (meaning you and your husband) can speak to an immigration lawyer about obtaining his green card."And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh" (Matthew 19:4,5) |
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I39
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| Posted: Mon Aug 04, 2008 2:46 pm Post subject: |
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| It sounds like your relationship is on the way out. If you stay together he would only be holding you back. Go finish your degree and have a successful career and make a good life for yourself and your baby. Someday you will meet a man who respects you, not brings you down. They are hard to find, but a girl shouldn't settle for just some loser like you have. |
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Naysa
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| Posted: Wed Aug 06, 2008 7:59 am Post subject: |
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| I saw a post you put up yesterday you left out all the stuff that your man does like him being a student as well and all that yet he is working two jobs and you can't get one maybe he resents that about you. I find it odd you would marry a man that wouldn't tell his mom you are his wife he has no respect for you for some reason or another. You need to find out why and this stuff about you being anti social is stupid that is simply not reason enough for all this. He doesn't care about you like he should are you sure that he didn't just marry you because of the kid. |
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