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NCGuy09
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 Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 7:50 am Post subject: Moving overseas, wondering if I should contact her one last time? |
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| Long story short, there is a friend of mine I havent talked to in about a month. I made her quite mad. Due to a death in my family, I am moving back overseas and probably will not return to the States for a very long time. Should I contact her one last time? I was thinking of sending a fruit gift basket with a little note attached or should I just leave things the way they are? I have sent a letter of apology to her via regular mail and flowers and no response on her end. I just hate leaving things unsaid. What would be some of the polite things to send to her? |
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squarebubble
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 7:55 am Post subject: |
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| Leave things the way they are - you must've gotten her really po'd for her to react this way - you're wasting your time - move on. |
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terrified by spiders
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 7:55 am Post subject: |
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| Try to contact her in person. When you send things you never know whether they were received or not. Ever watch the Brit sitcom, As Time Goes By? It's a story about a very mature couple who lost track of each other when young, due to circumstances not their fault. |
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Katie W
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 7:56 am Post subject: |
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| What have you left unsaid? You have tried; either she has rejected or neither the letter nor the flowers were delivered. Since you sent two items, you have redundant backup -- I would doubt that BOTH missed their way. If you didn't say you were moving overseas in the letter, you could try one more time with that information, but if you did say that before, then you've already said it, and the ball is in her court, and she just chooses not to serve it back; tossing more at her won't change anything and might just anger her more. |
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Ziggy
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:00 am Post subject: |
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| I wouldn't spend that much on a has-been. Send her a small vase of flowers with a good-bye note, with how she can contact you if she wants. |
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candygirl
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:03 am Post subject: |
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| I know it might be alittle hard to do but I would pick up the phone or visit your friend in person. Everyone has differences from time to time but your friend may not realize your moving and may never have this chance to make peace and say good bye! I would atleast try regardless of the out come because this could be your last chance to see your friend. Hopefully regardless of what the problem was between you two, you both can act like civilized adults and make up. Good Luck to you! |
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bri
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:09 am Post subject: |
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| I would send her one last note explaining that you moving away for a long time and would like the chance to say goodbye without any hard feelings.If she doesn't respond you will know in your heart that you have tried everything possible and that the end of the friendship is entirely down to her lack of forgiveness.I upset one of my friends by not inviting her to my wedding 9 years ago, even tho I had only close family present. 5 years later she said she was prepared to overlook my behaviour and I could ring her if I wanted to. I decided not to. Last year I moved away from the area. Rather than just disappear I wrote and said I would like to move away on good terms out of respect for the 36 years of friendship we had shared. We are now back in contact by email and have seen each other twice since I moved.I do hope your friend realises thar life is too short to hold grudges. |
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TONI D
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 8:19 am Post subject: |
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| Friendship need never be a distance hindered thing. Do what you feel deep down in your heart. Tell her parents you truly care-- that will get back to her. If, and when she decides to forgive you, she will probably contact you. And, if not, learn a lesson in friendship--- think before you act, and never say or do anything you may later regret--- Toni D. |
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dottielasvegas
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| Posted: Sun Aug 17, 2008 10:13 am Post subject: |
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| After you move send her an "I've moved card" with your new address. If you have already apologized to her & got no response, the next move is hers. Don't kiss as. |
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