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pjcat77
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 Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:00 am Post subject: Question about bridal/wedding gift? |
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| Whats the right thing to do? I'm in my friends wedding, and can't make the wedding shower, have to work 3rd shift..no one to trade with. Question is, I propably won't see her until the day before the wedding. Should I buy 2 gifts one for the wedding and shower and give them both at the wedding? Or buy one large gift for the both of them??On another note, isn't kind of rude of her sisters (the other 2 in the wedding) to plan a shower/bachlorette party based on their schedules and not even asking or considering my schedule?? The bride is pretty upset I can't make it. I can't help it though... |
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kaznaid
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:23 am Post subject: |
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| We don't have wedding showers here in UK - so I would only buy a wedding gift for the couple for the day!We have Hen Partys/weekends but we don't buy the bride a separate gift! |
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Katiesmama11
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:29 am Post subject: |
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| I think either way is appropriate, as long as you personally acknowledge to her why you cannot make the shower. Alternately, it might be nice to drop off a gift in advance (Assuming she is local) to the shower, to show that it was important to you, but you could not help but miss it. You could throw a card in the mail for the shower as well, it is a smaill gesture but goes along way in saying you care. Best wishes! |
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SoCal Country Girl
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:35 am Post subject: |
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| Just use your judgement, which would they prefer?Another option is to send (ship or with a friend) the shower gift to her so that it is at the shower.As for the other 2 bridesmaids, they should have consulted you about your schedule when planning the shower, especially if they asked you to contribute financially. Is the bride upset with you? If so, kindly explain to her what happened or just let it go and hopefully she'll get over it. |
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Jstwondering
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:38 am Post subject: |
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| I actually was in this situation a couple months ago. The bride and wedding were both about a 4 hour drive for me. Her mother-in-law to-be was the one that threw the shower and didn't ask any of the bridesmaids for thier schedules. I was finishing nursing school the week after the weedend of the shower and had finals and everything else to worry about, so I completely understand not being able to make it. Because I'm not so good with putting things in the mail, I brought one big present to the wedding in which I spent the same amount of money as I would have for the two presents combined. I called the bride the day after her shower to see how it went and I dropped a card in the mail so it got there "around" her shower day. I called her as soon as I got the invite and realized what weekend it was. She completely understood. |
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Pax
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:47 am Post subject: |
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| Your decision should be based on your relationship with the bride. If you feel it necessary to purchase a shower gift, you could always have it sent directly to her home. Yet, if you don't, I'd buy a bit larger wedding gift, factoring the cost of what you would have spent for the shower.Additionally, it was rude of the other bridesmaids to not clarify your schedule. |
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Liz
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 9:56 am Post subject: |
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| If they are planning and paying for the shower and basing it on their schedules, then it is not rude. If you are paying then yes, they are rude. I would send a gift to the shower (or mail it to her house) separate from the wedding gift. Give the wedding gift (cash) at the wedding. |
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Amanda H
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 11:32 am Post subject: |
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| Yes, two gifts are in order, but do not give them to her at the same time. Mail the shower gift to her prior to the shower and include a card that makes it clear it is a shower gift, or get it to her sisters to bring to the shower. Mail her the wedding gift or bring it to the wedding. That is the appropriate protocol for this situation. I see you have already gotten other advice, but just wanted to let you know what proper etiquette is in this instance (not just my opinion). |
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marypoppins
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| Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 2:34 pm Post subject: |
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| i would get one gift and add a little extra to the pot. that only if you're giving money, which i've heard all brides prefer |
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JK
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| Posted: Wed Sep 10, 2008 7:51 pm Post subject: |
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| If you need an original gift try http://www.photoartomation.com/ArtWork/wedding.htm . They convert ordinary photo into Art and print them on canvas.I am very pleased with the painting I received from photoartomation.com. The painting is absolutely beautiful! I will definitely use this site to order gifts for people--including myself! |
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