|
|
| Author |
Message |
Confid321
Yahoo User
|
 Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 7:56 pm Post subject: New York City Wedding Gift? |
 |
|
| How much money should I give my co-worker for her wedding? She is getting married in NYC so her plate is $150 a head. I am going with my boyfriend. I've only known her a year so I think that covering the plate cost is too much. What do you think? |
|
| Back to top |
|
 |
CC
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 8:01 pm Post subject: |
|
|
You don't have to cover your plate cost... they are the ones who chose such an elaborate reception. I would stick with about the $50 range. Just check their registry and come up with something that they want/need... the price isn't going to matter to them.  |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Etiquette Gal
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 8:02 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| The "covering your plate" thing is an etiquette MYTH. It was never, ever valid or true.You give as expensive a gift as you WANT to. There are no requirements for the cost of it.Since this co-worker is a peer, it would actually be BEST, etiquette-wise, to NOT gift her money or a gift card, but to select an ACTUAL GIFT for her and ship it to her home (never take a gift to the actual wedding or reception). Money gifts are given from the older generation to the younger within families, not to peers. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Monika
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 8:03 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| I live in New York, and you defiantly should give at least the plate amount. If that is too expensive for you, do not go to the wedding and send a gift. Some people think not covering for your own food is rude, especially if your going to invite them to your own wedding in the future. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
pspoptart
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 8:39 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| A wedding is not a for-profit event. You shouldn't throw any party you can't afford just because you are expecting to get the per plate cost back in gifts monetary or otherwise. I don't care what part of the country you are from.An idea is to take how much you make a week and give 15% of that. Its what I do and nobody has ever complained or talked about how "cheap" I am behind my back. So if you made 1000 a week you would give them 150. If you are closer to her and see her outside of work then you can up that to whatever is financially comfortable for you. It makes no sense to cover the cost of your plate if it means you can't eat for the next month. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
el3_kisses
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 9:03 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| Give a gift to a co-worker NOT cash. If they are not registered (I hate when people are lazy like that) get them a gift basket with nice kitchen things. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
Marquel
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Fri Jun 08, 2007 9:14 pm Post subject: |
|
|
| If you check the gift list and you thnik that the gift is not so "shinny" buy 2. The amount depends on yur budget. You can have something really nice for 50 and may look like 100. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
no_frills
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:53 am Post subject: |
|
|
| If it above your budget then give what you can. Maybe turning down the invite would have been better and just giving a gift, I am basing this on the "I only know her a year" remark. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
gileswench
Yahoo User
|
| Posted: Sat Jun 09, 2007 10:53 am Post subject: |
|
|
| Covering the plate is a pernicious myth. If you consult such etiquette mavens as Miss Manners, Emily Post, etc. you will see it's NOT a standard held by truly polite people. In fact, they will all tell you that while a wedding gift is traditional and certainly a thoughtful thing to give, it's not even required that you do so.The only things that should be considered in choosing a wedding gift are a) one's own finances, and b) what one thinks the bridal couple will like/can use. If the couple is registered, check out the registry to get an idea of what they like and/or need - but don't feel constrained by it. A registry is a wish list, not a direct order.Try to choose something that will make the couple in question happy, of course, but don't obsess about the pricetag. If you can afford to give a gift that's $300, that's great and certainly very generous. OTOH, if your bank account says $20 is your limit, that's your limit.When I was married, some friends gave extremely generous gifts of silver, linens, etc. Others didn't have that in their budgets and gave small kitchen tools, hand towels, and more creative items including a cross-stitched picture and an original painting. All of these gifts were more than welcome because they told us our friends and families were thinking of us, not because of what they cost.It's a generous thought on the part of the guest to give a gift. It's up to the happy couple to be gracious about the gifts received no matter whether they're given a place setting of their silver pattern or a set of plastic measuring spoons. Give according to your means with a good will. |
|
| Back to top |
|
|
|
FAQ
Register
Log in
Powered by Yahoo! Answers