Wedding Gift Etiquette?
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danashelchan
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 Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 8:18 am Post subject: |
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| What's the big whoop? If he is a friend, and will be an ongoing one, you 2 might do each other favors for years. Why keep score of wedding gifts?So what the hey, get him a lovely card and write a check. It doesn't have to rival the national debt. Just a simple ordinary modest wedding check, whatever you can comfortably part with. For college people, you sure don't have a clue about everyday common sense. |
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Proud to be 51
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 8:21 am Post subject: |
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| Ahhh.. but you are wrong. He did give you a gift. He gave you the gift of his presence! He also paid his way there, his lodging and expenses. Do what you want about getting him a gift, that's entirely up to you. If you feel that the money you're spending to go suffices as a gift, than your off the hook, just get him a congratulatory card. If you want to get him something else, get something off the registry and have it sent to them prior to the wedding.Best of luck on your decision. |
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britno_00
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 8:22 am Post subject: |
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| It's the proper thing to do. Get him a gift card to a restaurant so him and his new bride can go to a nice dinner on their honeymoon, or relax once they get home. My husband and I received gift cards to sonic as a wedding gift. It doesn't have to be anything big, but at least you brought something. |
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no_frills
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 8:36 am Post subject: |
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| Do unto others as you would have others do unto you.It doesn't matter what they did. If you wish to keep a friendship attend and give a gift. If not do not attend. |
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RowerGirl
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 8:49 am Post subject: |
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| He probably didn't give you a gift due to the travel expenses. Being the better person is always the best idea! Give him a gift if you can afford one on top of your travel expenses. A gift is not "mandatory" at a wedding but you should give one despite the fact that he didn't get one for you. |
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Terri
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 9:19 am Post subject: |
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| If you want to, they are NOT required when attending a wedding.And the whole "I won't get him one because he didn't get me one" is really pathetic and petty. |
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JJ2003
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 9:39 am Post subject: |
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| "He did give you a gift. He gave you the gift of his presence!"This has to be the stupidest advice I have ever heard. Goes along with "It's the thought that counts"; "She's got a great personality", and "Love means more to me than money".Look, here's the deal when you get married. You get sent an invitation to your wedding. That's like a theater or a sports team inviting you to purchase prime, club-level seats (with DINNER!) at just $100 per person. Your job is to then give a gift that has a minimum value of $200. Of course, this assumes you're not a dork and coming alone, in which case you really should kick in a "singles supplement" like on the cruise ships ($100 + $35 singles supplement seems fair).Now if you're too cheap, then you don't go, and you get to shell out only $100 per couple on a gift (since the bride and groom don't have to feed you).This is part of being American. What did our President tell us to do after 9-11? Did he say, "Ask what you can do for your country?" Did he say, "Join my daughters and enlist in the Armed Forces of the United States of America to serve in Afghanistan and (eventually) Iraq?" Did he say, "We all join together to pay more taxes to rebuild and come together"? No, no and no. He asked for our "continued participation and confidence in the American economy."Well, weddings are an opportunity to do that for someone else, to build our economy. You kick in funds, and the bride and groom get to go shopping. They can buy china, or towels, or exchange your stupid punch bowl for cash to go drinking on the honeymoon. All that money fuels the economy, and fuels our nation.You can bail out on giving a gift, but then be ready to explain why you hate America. Your choice. |
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ninawafer
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| Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 11:54 am Post subject: |
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| I can't agree with JJ2003 more!! I am getting myself in 3 months, and as I browse throught this site, I am both amazed and mortified at how .... "thifty" (a.k.a. Cheap) people are!! Since when is $20, or even $50, an exceptable gift for weddings? Being invited to a wedding is an honor, and by accpeting to go you are also accepting to the "responsibilites" of being a guest. Whether you want to be a "good" or "bad" guest it's entirely up to you. Just remember when you spend that $150-$200, the couple is spending 200 times more. Weddings aren't a charity event, but it doesn't hurt to be considerate of the couple either. |
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