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JM
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 Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:53 pm Post subject: Wedding gift dilemma? |
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| I went to a friends wedding about a month and a half ago. I gave them a wedding gift in the form of a check in a card. I noticed it hasn't been cashed yet. I also haven't received a thank you card from them for the wedding. I'm afraid the gift was lost or somehow never got to them. But I'm also wondering if they are waiting to deposit them until they have written out their thank yous. I don't want them to think we didn't give them anything but I also don't want to make them feel bad or make them think that we think they are ungrateful or something. (it was a large gift) Should I wait longer or should I say something?It's not a thank you I'm concerned with. I'm afraid it was lost and they either don't know it or are embarrassed to say anything. Thanks for the help. I'm going to talk to them later this week. |
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J-flo
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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| Say something but dont make it to obvious your talking about the gift and see what comes up out of that! |
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njspanteach
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:57 pm Post subject: |
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| I would say something. |
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Birah
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Say something. Just show them that you are concerned that they didn't get the gift. So much happens on the "Big Day" that they might have overlooked it and be pleasantly surprised when you tell them to double check. |
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Reality
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 9:59 pm Post subject: |
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| brides have up until 3 months to send their thank you cards before people start going -____________- i know that we found a 50 dollar bill and were like...where did that come from. i would wait a little while longer. |
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LovePink222
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 10:02 pm Post subject: |
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| I would call her or e-mail her. Make it more that you were concerned w/ the fact the check might be lost, more then the it just not being cashed.Say something like, " I was balancing my checkbook and noticed you still haven't cashed the check I gave you. Did you receive it? I know it was crazy that day. I really hope it did not get lost. You did receive it, right?"I do think it's odd the couple did not cash the check. I know they might want to do it when they write the thank you. But the longer you keep the check, the more potential you have to lose it. I would think the couple would like to cash it. It's much harder to tell someone you lost their gift. |
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maigen_obx
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:04 pm Post subject: |
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| I would mention to the couple that you were balancing your checkbook and noticed that they hadn't cashed your check yet. See what happens from there. |
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Speedy Saddy
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| Posted: Sun Jul 01, 2007 11:51 pm Post subject: |
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| I think you should definitely enquire about it. Just call up your friends and say that you've noticed that the cheque you gave them hasn't been cashed and you were worried it somehow got lost. Its better to clear it than have them think you didnt give them anything. 45 days is a long time for a cheque when most banks dont cash chrques 3 months after the date it was made out on! |
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Erica S
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| Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 12:13 am Post subject: |
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| if they had a logn honeymoon, give them more time! it's "polite" to get all the thank-you notes out one month after you get back from a honeymoon, but it can take a LOT logner than that, especially if the wedding was large. if they haven't sent you a note in the next month, just call your friends to make sure they got it. don't sound offended that they haven't sent you a gift yet, but be excited to hear what they'll do with the money. |
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bigDcowgirl
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| Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 1:49 am Post subject: |
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| Just call and say you were balancing your checkbook and noticed the check has not cleared and wondered if they have not cashed it or wondering if it was lost. Let them know if it's lost you will need to put a stop payment on it and write them a new one. That way they will know you gave them something or they will deposit it, most banks dont cash checks after 60 days so a little reminder would be nice. |
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Lydia
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| Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 2:24 am Post subject: |
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| You should call, and just say you noticed that the cheque hadn't gone through your bank yet. Hopefully it's not lost. |
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stephimm
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| Posted: Mon Jul 02, 2007 3:01 am Post subject: |
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| It's totally understandable if you gave them a call to make sure that nothing happened to it. If they have it, have not cashed it, and have not acknowledged it, shame on them. Try to not embarrass them, but call none-the-less! |
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