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familygames18657
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 Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 4:37 pm Post subject: what to do about high school graduation gift? |
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| a college friend of mine. for last 20 years we exchange annual xmas letters - that's it. my son just graduated from high school. friend sent a check for $100. she's never met him. we haven't had communication other than the xmas letters. i can't possibly let him accept $100 check. how do we graciously let her know he appreciates it but cannot accept it?is that rude? maybe he can keep $50 and donate $50 to a charity?help! |
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runoutofwhite
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 5:13 pm Post subject: |
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| Alot of people see graduation as a one-time-only thing, so they splurge because they know they won't be expected to do it again. Your frind may have seen an opportunity to show that they still care about your family, or they may simply be rich and that's how much they spend for everyone. And do they know where your son's heading off to college? If it's expensive, they may just want to help out. Let him keep the money. Your friend probably isn't senile or irresponsible, they sent that much money on purpose. Sending it back would be an insult. Don't forget a nice thankyou card! |
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madmac13
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| Posted: Sun Jul 29, 2007 5:44 pm Post subject: |
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| i agree with run out, if you are uncomfortable with the gift then your 50-50 idea might work, but im sure your friend understood that a gift prob wasnt necesary, she chose to send a gift in accordance with her ability. were so many people so generous. i do understand how you feel, however, my estranged wifes (perfectly sane and healthy) grand mother sent me $100 for vallentines day, random iknow. i confirmed with her that that was infact the amount that she intended to send and had a lovely evening out with it. congrats on the boys graduation. |
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Mr Unknowable
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| Posted: Mon Jul 30, 2007 8:43 am Post subject: |
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| Well it sounds like your college friend is just being nice. Obviously she thinks the gift is appropriate, and you don't. So instead of presenting the check, maybe instead you can take your son to go with you and buy a gift for himself with some of that money (a DVD movie or three, some music CD's... what does he like?)Than you can take some of the money and maybe take him out to dinner for a grad gift.Either way, the sentiment is nice, it's just the form that is awkward. So take the sentiment for what it means which is congratulations! and use the money for something more appropriate (which is probably what she expects you to do anyways...) |
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SailorsWife
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| Posted: Thu Aug 02, 2007 3:20 pm Post subject: |
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| Twenty years is a long time to remain friends, even if it's only through Christmas letters, and a friend's child's graduation is a big event. Accept the gift and make sure your son writes a thank you note telling your friend what he did or plans to do with the money (I bought a new conforter for my dorm. I went to dinner to celebrate graduation and we had a great time. etc.) |
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