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corduroy
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 Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 2:59 am Post subject: How long for a thank you note? Wedding gift.? |
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| OK I did not give the gift expecting a thank you note. I gave a three hundred fifty dollar (US) gift to a close friend. It has been 5 months and no thank you note or call or anything. What do you think?No call regarding the gift, but calls about other things, yes.And is there a polite way for me to bring it up? |
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ladyhawk8141
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 3:06 am Post subject: |
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| A thank you note should be written and sent no longer than a month after recieving a gift. |
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turtledawn210
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 3:13 am Post subject: |
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| You actually have a full year to even send a gift to a couple who got married, but a thank you for a gift received BEFORE the wedding should be sent immediately while a gift received at the wedding should be responded to within 2 weeks - 3 months of getting home from the honeymoon, depending on who you listen to. I think anything over a month is just tacky.As far as your friend, and bringing it up... I would ask them if they received the gift. If they enjoyed the gift. If they think it would be a good gift to give again. Then I would ask if they need help organizing their thank you note list so they don't end up hurting someones feelings. You don't have to tell them yours have already been hurt. |
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picklesperson
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 3:14 am Post subject: |
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| If the couple left immediately for the honeymoon, then it is usually proper for the thank you notes to be sent out within 2 to 3 weeks of their return. If they did not leave for the honeymoon, then 2 to 3 weeks after the wedding.It is possible that the new couple has gotten caught up with their new life together, and they simply forgot this courtesy. It is also possible they may have chosen to forego thank you cards altogether. For whatever reason, failing to say "Thank you," in some fashion, is never the right choice.Have they shown their appreciation in any other forms such as inviting you over for dinner, buying you a gift or even a simple, yet sincere, verbal form of thanks? If so, then I wouldn't worry about the card. They may have chosen to show their appreciation in a different way, which is completely acceptable.If they have failed to show appreciation for your gesture on every level, then I recommend talking to them about it. I strongly encourage you to be careful not to overdramatize it, or make it a bigger deal than necessary. Simply ask them how they felt about your gift. Then let them know how it made you feel when they didn't say thanks. It's important to use terms like, "my feelings were a little hurt that you didn't mention my gift," and not terms that may seem like an attack to your friends such as, "you didn't appreciate my gift." |
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Blossom
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 3:38 am Post subject: |
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| I don't think it would be rude if you just popped up the topic in the middle of any other conversation you have when he/she phones! Just do it casually, like, 'Hey, how about the gift I gave you? Did you like it?' I don't think your friend is trying to evade the subject, most probably he/she just forgot about it! |
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riversconfluence
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| Posted: Mon Aug 27, 2007 8:33 am Post subject: |
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| Work into the conversation a question if she is done with all the wedding stuff, unwrapping the presents, writing out the thank yous, and see what she says. If she says, yes she is done, time to ask if she got your present. If the answer is no, she is not done, then you might want to wait. and if the answer is she is not sending thand yous, time to correct her, especially if she is planning to invite any of those people to anything else, like a baby shower, or a house warming.If you sent it by mail, ask about it. Postal services will only investigate a loss for a short amount of time.Etiquette says a thank you for any present should be mailed no later than a month after it is recieved, but brides have a year to respond.That does not mean they should wait a whole year, it just means we are understanding that it take awhile for all those thank yous. |
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ka_singer
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| Posted: Thu Aug 30, 2007 8:38 am Post subject: |
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| I'd want to know if they got it. You can call or email something like, "By the way, did you ever get my wedding gift? I just want to make sure it arrived."Sometimes people open gifts and forget to record who gave what; hence, no thank you note. They would probably want to know who gave them such a generous gift! |
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